Up Against the Wall Kissing Secrets

Up Against the Wall: Kissing Secrets

Ever have a great date, but a lousy kiss?  If you’ve wanted a little more spice and a little more spark in your ecstatic kissing, don’t worry.  Even if you’re not a great kisser by design, it IS a skill you can learn!

Here’s the truth, the quality and frequency of kissing can have a huge impact on the overall quality of a relationship … and the passion that happens in it!

Kissing — real connected kissing — is as important for that first kiss as it is for the 400,000th kiss. Yes, I hope you have that many amazing kisses in your relationship. Kissing is another very important part of intimacy in relationship.

Want to know the most important of the kissing secrets? It’s all in the sensual.

  • Feel it.
  • Experience the kiss.

How do I do that?

It’s about kissing and being kissed. Separate the two. I know that sounds weird, but trust me, if you let him or her kiss you… (while you are not actively kissing back — while you’re receiving the kiss) oooooooh, the pleasure that’s available!  Then you can kiss back. Again, it definitely sounds weird, but don’t judge it until you actually try it. Be the kisser and the kissee.



Here are a few more intimate kissing secrets…

In your kiss, use all your gifts.  What do I mean by gifts?  Your lips, your tongue, your teeth, your breath, your sound… are all the gifts you have to give while you are kissing.  Here are the most important things you want to remember… 

1) More energy, less technique.

Let the energy circulate between you and take the energy of that kiss way up.

2) Variety, variety, variety.

Vary the speed, pressure, depth, gifts you’re using and the parts of the lips you’re kissing!

3) Open your eyes and drink them in.

4) Slow down, build anticipation, tease.

5) Don’t forget your hands!

Touch them, touch their face, their neck. Wrap them up, or maybe, if you know them well, put your hand on their sacrum/low back.

6) Kissing, it’s not just for the lips.

Now… If you’d like more insights into the masculine and feminine dynamics… 


Men… I have Gifts for you HERE

Women… I have Gifts for you HERE

or… check out our intimacy retreats.


In love, light and ecstasy,

Joanna Shakti

*At Ecstatic Intimacy, an all-inclusive website for singles and couples, we welcome all sexual orientation(s), gender(s) and relationship expressions. In this article we utilize the pronouns he/she/him/her.

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