Why do you Block Love?
Why do you block love? I know… your first answer is “I don’t! I want love. I don’t block it! I seek it… all the time!” Or maybe your answer is “I don’t block it… but it’s just not out there for me. All the good ones are taken. No one my age is as active as I am. It’s hopeless.”
I completely honor that you’re out there “going for it…going for love and passion” whether that’s with your spouse of 20 years or you’re out there in the social scene “making yourself available” for love… or, even if you’ve fallen into that “hopeless” category. Unfortunately, even though it may feel like you’re “available” for love, things aren’t always as they seem.
I can share with you that after more than a decade of working with hundreds of clients and participants, if your love life isn’t the way you want it to be… you are the common denominator. You are the one there in every moment of your life… on every date… in your bed each night… in every relationship.
We live in an empowered and co-created world and what that means is that what’s manifesting in your external “reality” directly reflects the state of your internal world – your beliefs, programming, and conditioning. What you experience in love – dating, relating and sex – is a result of how you view love, intimacy and relationship on the inside.
If love is not the way you want it – then, plain and simple, a block, barrier or limitation exists within you. It can’t be any other way.
You might want to stop reading. That might irritate you… and I’d like to suggest another possibility… What if this information empowered you?
What if knowing that the block exists within you meant that you were never again the “victim” of life’s circumstances? What if you never had to “put up with” the fact that the opposite sex is different again? What if you were no longer the “victim” of a woman’s ever changing, and maybe even irrational, emotions? What if you were no longer the “victim” of emotionally unavailable men or men who wouldn’t commit? What if you were we no longer the “victim” of your spouse’s low libido?
Is that word “victim” bothering you… even pissing you off a bit? Are you saying, “I’m no victim!”? I didn’t like it the first time my mentor told me I was playing the victim card. It pissed me off as a matter of fact. I was defiant, indignant.
And, when I had a chance to sit with it, I saw he was right. I was totally blaming others and the world for my circumstances and I felt powerless to change them. I felt “at the effect of” everything happening around me. That is being the victim.
So I invite you to stop being the victim of your love life. The world “out there” doesn’t control how much sex you have or how much love you experience in your heart. YOU do.
So let’s go back to that question… Why do you block love?
Now that you know that the block, barrier or limitation on love is within… now you can be like a child on an adventure who discovers unexplored territories, finds some really cool stuff, and clears all the blocks along the path…
Simply, get curious with yourself…
To help you along the way…. here are some of the blocks to love that others have found on that inward journey of exploration (myself included)…
- All the good ones are taken
- Why would she like me? If she loves me, there must be something wrong with her…
- I’m not worth it…
- I’m not good enough…
- I’m too old…
- No men my age are as active as I am…
- Women my age aren’t into sex and I want sex…
- I’m never going to get hurt like that again…
- I’ll never make that mistake again…
- I don’t know if I have what it takes…
- Love is a lot of work…
- I don’t fully trust men … I don’t fully trust women…
- ANY judgement about the opposite sex…
- Trying to be the nice guy / girl
- Being busy…
- Walls of protection
- Trying to be strong
- Fear of intimacy
- Fear of vulnerability
Need I go on? I could go on for a long time… There are so many internal judgements, fears, hurts, rules, and beliefs that drive us to protect ourselves from heartache, but as we try to protect ourselves from heartache – we protect ourselves from love.
Protect ourselves from love? Yep.
That protection – your inner protections – are your blocks to love.
You have to open yourself to the possibility of heartbreak, vulnerability, rejection, disappointment, hurt and more… that is, if you want to experience love. And, the terrain of love is not as scary or dangerous as you think. I promise.
If it’s possible that you’ve been blocking the love you seek, then you might consider an Igniting Soul Love session.
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In the meantime, in whatever way you do, may you release all your blocks to love. It’s worth it.
In love, light and ecstasy,
*At Ecstatic Intimacy, an all-inclusive website for singles and couples, we welcome all sexual orientation(s), gender(s) and relationship expressions. In this article we utilize the pronouns he/she/him/her.
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