Control Freak – Do I Resemble That?

I feel like I’m getting a huge lesson in control or, better said, surrendering control. My attempts to be in control seem to cause me nothing but pain. For those of you that have heard this phrase from me before… control is simply another direct ticket to hell, on the Speed Train this time. One…

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Men & Women are Funny!

Have you ever noticed men and women are different?  It seems like since the 60’s and the women’s movement men have been trying to be more like women and women more like men.  And in most cases, I have to say we’ve been failing dismally. Sure, we certainly know now that we have the ABILITY…

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Want vs. Desire

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Today’s article comes directly from an exercise the men and women in the 90-Day Breakthrough programs are doing this week in their workbook… and it’s the topic of November’s Ignite Night so it I thought I’d share the exercise with you too… Want Want limits us while desire expands us.  When we focus on what…

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Is Tantra for Me?

Is Tantra for Me?

I’m excited to be talking about this powerful practice.  It’s had a profound impact on my life… personally and romantically. I’ll suggest that before you can decide if Tantra is right for you… (even right for a bit of exploration before you think about trying it in your life…) it might be good to understand…

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Sexual Liberation

Wow… Just thinking of those words brings so many images to mind… bra burning and freelove signs of the 60s, women’s marches, the movie Dirty Dancing, steamy sex scenes from movies, and even some of my most hot liberated personal sexual experiences.  It amazes me what arises in my awareness.  There are so many visual…

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Finding Peace in the Middle Ground

When I think about experiencing true peace, I’m reminded of a teaching from the Buddha called ‘The Middle Ground” that I learned from one of my spiritual teachers.   The teaching taught me to recognize when I was truly at peace, when I was in alignment with myself and the world, or in the words of…

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Telling the Truth

Have you ever noticed yourself being afraid to tell the truth?  Or have you noticed that what you just said was slightly exaggerated or slightly off from the real truth? That has happened to me. Yet truth telling is the foundation of trust and intimacy. With no forethought, I’ve heard words coming out of my mouth…

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Peace, Joy, Love, & Passion

Are these experiences and feelings ones that you’ve craved in your life, in your relationships?  Have you longed for more love?  Hoped for more passion?  Wished for more peace?  Dreamed of more happiness and joy?  … and then sometimes wondered if those experiences were  really possible for you? We all long for certain feelings… yet…

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Welcome Everything

We often walk through life unconsciously fighting against what is happening and what we’re experiencing.  We formulate expectations and demands for how things should be – how we should act, what we should do, how the people around us should act, and what they should do – and when the results don’t match our expectations,…

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