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Checklist: Am I Ready to Attract Love?

Are you ready to attract a soulmate?

Here’s the thing… If you’re REALLY want to attract, meet, date (and eventually marry) your soul mate, I can’t give you a bunch of pick up techniques or attraction strategies to find him or her.  Techniques won’t help (and they might just hurt)… if you’re not truly ready (even if you think you are).

How do you know if you’re ready?  Use this 9 Point Checklist and find out…

Is your sexual essence turned-on?  Or, are you in neutral?  (This is the secret to lasting passion and chemistry.)

Are you in love with you?  (Self-Abandonment may be the #1 destroyer of your future relationship.)

Do you have a clear vision for the relationship you want to create? (Who you are in relationship? Who your partner is?  Your must haves?  Your deal breakers? Even your “bonuses”?)

Is your life shareable? (Women, that’s means happiness comes frequently for you.  Men, that means you have – or are seriously getting – your life in order.)

Is your heart open?  (Have you 100% healed the past?)

Are you active socially?  (If you’re not out there connecting – you can’t connect with anyone… dates aren’t delivered, last I checked.)

Are you willing to be authentic?  (In other words, are you willing to tell the whole truth, from the beginning? Especially about your desires – or not – for kids, marriage and sex.)

Are you willing to be rejected and heart-broken? (You simply can’t find love if you’re not.  Otherwise your walls of protection block rejection, hurt AND LOVE.)

Are you committed?  (There will be ups and downs in dating.  There will be challenges in love.  Are you in… no matter what?)

If you checked yes to all of these, you’re ready… Go for it.  Get out there.  Write your profile.  Start smiling.  Start enjoying.  Watch love appear.

If you couldn’t check every box, it’s time for some heart-felt, spirit-led spring cleaning and inner lovin’.  Do whatever it takes so that you can genuinely and excitedly check every box above.  That’s when love is around the corner!  Message me (in the bottom right corner below) if you truly want some help!

In love, light and ecstasy,


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*At Ecstatic Intimacy, an all-inclusive website for singles and couples, we welcome all sexual orientation(s), gender(s) and relationship expressions. In this article we utilize the pronouns he/she/him/her.

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  1. Heather Johnson on July 23, 2015 at 8:15 pm

    woo hoo I got all nine!! Its on!!! 🙂

  2. Dr. Leonard on July 24, 2015 at 1:17 pm

    Dear Joanna…this is such a powerful little list! In looking over it the "is your heart open?" question seems so big to me…if you can maintain an open heart, you're going to natural attract; if not, you'll attract someone based on the wounds that still need t0 be healed. And that's no fun.

  3. Joanna on July 27, 2015 at 8:50 pm

    Dr. Leonard… thank you! And, you are so right about the "Is your heart open?" part. It's a powerful question. Do we need to be 1000% open. We don't… that's part of the purpose of relationship in my opinion. And, when we wonder why it's not working… looking at our own wounds and the ways they make us close down to, push away and fight love… is so important!

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