Conscious Relating Insights

This week I wanted to share with you a poem I first read when I was about 12 years old… it’s touched me profoundly then and it still opens my heart so deeply each time I read it now.

Having written many profound words, I believe these that Kahil Gibran wrote On Marriage in his 1923 book call The Prophet, apply today to all romantic relationships… whether you’ve just met or you’ve been married for decades.

The words are powerful guides to creating a conscious relationship.  I hope it touches you the way it touches me.

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.

You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.

Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.

But let there be spaces in your togetherness,

And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:

Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.

Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf

Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,

Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.

For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.

And stand together yet not too near together:

For the pillars of the temple stand apart,

And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.

In love, light and ecstasy,

Joanna Shakti

*At Ecstatic Intimacy, an all-inclusive website for singles and couples, we welcome all sexual orientation(s), gender(s) and relationship expressions. In this article we utilize the pronouns he/she/him/her.

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  1. charlie on January 28, 2011 at 1:59 pm

    Right On!

  2. Marie on January 28, 2011 at 5:06 pm

    What a lovely poem, Joanna. Thanks for sharing.

  3. Patty on January 29, 2011 at 12:05 am

    I was given Kahil Gibran's book when I was very young also….I have always cherished his words of wisdom and glad that you shared them again…
    Thank you Joanna

  4. GilliAn on February 1, 2011 at 3:55 am

    Love this, Love Kahil Gibran…..thanks for reminding me, love you for your sharing

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