Ecstatic Intimacy For Couples

Couples United in Heart, Mind, Body, Spirit and Soul.

It's true more than ever. Too many relationships still end in heartbreak. Too many men and women give up on love. Too many couples settle for being friends and roommates, missing out on the ecstasy of love.

When it comes to sacred love, lasting love, you cannot blame your partner, you cannot sit back and hope it will change, you cannot wait until the kids grow up…

Waiting will break your heart over and over and over again. You deserve better and so does your partner.

You see you imagined that love would be all fairy tales and great sex but soul love doesn't work that way. Soul love, when fully lived, is beyond blissful and it's designed to illuminate every barrier you hold against true love. Your partner is meant to be your master "button pusher" and that's a blessing not a curse. It's the journey of all couples.

May your heart know the immense blessings of soul-to-soul love…

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3 Common and Avoidable Mistakes Couples Make

The things most couples think will keep them together are the very things that sabotage relationships. Too often, in your attempts to be a good partner, you're actually the opposite.

What you think is love is not love, it's attachment, it's expectation, and even demand.

The strongest marriages form when two sovereign self-connected beings come together - wholly as themselves - and that allows them to unite in a way that lasts. That expands. That deepens. 

But you were never taught how to love you and love them. Yet, this is the secret. 

Instead you settle. 

Relating starts the minute you first read the profile, the moment you catch a glimpse of them across the room…

The success of relationship depends wholly on how YOU are showing up and how YOU are relating to the other person, and yourself.

It's unfortunate, It's not until most have struggled or even failed… over and over again, that they get up the courage to look for the common denominator. Themselves.


The 3 Biggest Reasons Relationships Fail...  


1. You neutralize the chemistry

Masculine attracts feminine. Feminine attracts masculine. Gender and orientation don't matter. The connective spark of attraction ignites - and sustains itself - happens in the presence of opposites. As relationships evolved from role-based, Beaver Cleaver relationships into relationships of equality we neutralized the spark. Equal does not mean same. Different and opposite is where juicy connections happen. 


2. Your self-abandonment creates resentment 

Putting your partner first ends relationships. You might think that compromise and putting them first means you love them. But the problem is, you can't love them more than you love you. Abandoning your needs, wants, and desires in favor of theirs guarantees that over time you will resent your partner. Resentment kills love.


3. You resist conflict (This impacts your sex life)

Most couples think that disagreements and conflicts mean there is a problem in the relationship. Quite the opposite is true. Avoiding conflict, keeping the peace, is one of the most dangerous things that can happen in relationship. And, it's a sure fire way to extinguish your sex life. Every time you don't speak up, every time you stuff it, every time you don't ask for what you want, you create distance. Distance isn't union. Distance too often leads to divorce. 


The Truth: It Only Takes One And, You are The One.

You cannot wait for your partner to change.  It will never happen.  You cannot think, WE need to fix this.  That won't likely happen either.  The more that you demand, expect, need your partner to change - even if you fear your relationship might be ending - the more they will stay the same.  As a matter of fact, what you fear appears, so if you fear the end of your love, you are actually walking the path toward that fear… toward that breakup, toward that divorce. 

It only takes one to be intimate and it only takes one to transform a relationship. 

The truth is, if you change, the relationship MUST change.  It can't happen any other way. 

The problem is, most individuals, men and women, aren't willing to take a stand for love…within themselves.  True, it does take two to tango and your partner is responsible for the challenges, fading love and lack of intimacy in your relationship.  But more importantly, so are you.


The Conscious Couple Experience


Confident Love

You trust love, but more importantly, you trust you. You feel safe to be yourself, not because your partner never screws up, but because you know even when he or she goes unconscious, even when you go unconscious and do or say something you wish you hadn't, you know you'll get through it. You know the strength of the love you share and you surrender into it.


Speaking Intimacy

In-2-me-u-c. I let you see into me. I share with you my deeper (and deepest) experiences of life. I speak in a way that lets you into my inner world. I let you see the pleasures and the joy, the challenges and hidden fears. I let you know all of me and you love me more for it. 


Sacred Conflict

You are meant to have upsets. Your partner can never be perfect enough for you not to feel hurt. It will happen. Soul partners embrace conflict. They know that challenges fully met, turn conflict into communion -- strengthening and deepening the bond they share. (Problems are not a problem when you meet them with love - they are blessings.)


Hot & Happy

Sex gets better over time. That's not the "norm" in relationships today and when you know how to truly unite heart and sex in a way that ignites the fires of both love and passion -- in both of you -- lovemaking becomes a deepening of the bond, a uniting force, and mind-blowing pleasure, as you fall deeper in love. Sex with Soul.

"There was a disconnect between my partner and I. We have the foundation for a great relationship, but life circumstances and individual issues were overruling our lives and our ability to be intimate and connected the way we wanted to be. We were stuck in our stories, habits and excuses. The gap that naturally happens with having kids, and life stressors, was widening and we did not want it to tear us apart. I discovered a ton about masculine - feminine qualities and how they actually work and affect the relationship with myself and my partner. I saw how my stories and how I relate to them kept me stuck in a limited reality... My husband and I are addressing issues more easily, not brushing over them. We are in better and more frequent communication. We are having more sex! I understood how I tend to abandon myself and how that affects me, my relationships and family. It has also helped me to find my voice and start creating healthy boundaries."

~ V.

"...inspired me to get back to my core of who I am. It was quite humorous… my husband found the event to be great for him in more ways than one…"

"'s going to immensely impact my relationship with my wife who took the course with me. It was a wonderful time together. We have lots of things to put together and learn and grow with … with this wonderful information about how men and women think differently, behave differently, see things differently,  yet how beautifully we  complement each other when we are just open to that." 

~ C.

"After learning about Sacred Conflict, I no longer fear getting into an argument with my wife. We've had a few good ones since then. But as we come through them, my understanding and love for her deepens and we are bound together even more tightly than before."


What's your Sexual Essence?

Conscious Coupleship

Authenticity & Intimacy

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Spiritual Intimacy

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Signs of Intimacy Issues

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Authentic Intimacy


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Soul Connection Challenges

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Passionate Lovemaking

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Masculine & Feminine Energy

Finding yourself on this page may bring relief or it may bring fear based on where you believe you are in your relationship. And, your Soul is calling. The connection you craved, the infinite love you believed was waiting for you is, in fact, waiting for you. Your partner is the vehicle to the ecstasy of mind, body and spirit that you seek.

You'll face your stuff and you'll own your part. There will be new conversations and negotiations -- but the reward is beyond words. And the first step remains necessary… 

Acknowledge the courage of taking that first step.

The Journey


Soulful Passion Retreat


Soulful Relating Retreat


Igniting Soul Love Session


My feminine draws up his masculine which, in turn, deepens my feminine. I treasure the unending moments when he opens me beyond open….where separation, lies, struggles melt into Truth… bliss, ecstasy, joy, love open us together into divine oneness. Nothing is withheld. Nothing. Our bond grows deeper in spirit, in Truth, in love, in service. Peeling away our own layers of untruth, we open so that others may open. Our passion for love, freedom and intimacy unite us. All love is known within and beyond....We hear, "How do they have such an extraordinary love?"...