24 Sep Creating Chemistry — Maintaining Attraction
If you’re at all like me a decade ago, you know the words masculine and feminine, yet you haven’t really considered how they play out in your life. When I discovered the power… and the challenge… of their dance, the reality shocked me. I share part of my story with you in hopes that it will inspire a similar awakening in you.
It was September 2001, just 3 or 4 days after 9/11, and I was sitting in a seminar…the topic of the day was Relationship Mastery. I sat anxiously next to my boyfriend awaiting the golden keys that would make my relationship everything I dreamed of.
From the stage I heard descriptions of the masculine and feminine and the power of their dynamic. I spent the next four hours trying to pick my jaw up off the floor as he described my entire life… including the tears of frustration and unhappiness I so often cried. That day defined the beginning of a new chapter in my life and it’s never been the same since. I learned why I was exhausted, why I was overwhelmed, why my relationships never worked. I had wrapped myself in a very masculine persona around my natural feminine essence and I honestly had no idea that feminine essence even existed. At that point in my life, I was a “techie” geek and I felt like I was as good a man as any man could be and probably better! I had great male friends but as soon as we tried to get romantic it would be “ok”, but never sizzling, never passionate, never fulfilling… for either of us. I made the men in my life feel like they were never good enough. I was a master at emasculation!
Then began my journey back to the feminine… it has been profound and freeing and today I am happier and more fulfilled than I’ve ever been!!
Now that I’ve shared my story, what does that mean to you? Most importantly… it means opposites attract! When I was wearing my masculine mask and was “attracted” to – masculine men… they weren’t attracted to me.
We were the same – not opposite. The problem in my relationships was that there was no polarity – no magnetic attraction – no chemistry. We were “same–same” and we were either “good buddies” or we repelled each other!
What are your relationships like?
Are you feeling great attraction or are things a bit ho-hum?
Let me share some definitions of the masculine and feminine. Masculine energy is on point and focused, self-disciplined and directive, goal oriented and scheduled. Masculine energy moves forward, outward producing results. Masculine archetypes include visionary hero, gallant prince, and rugged and dangerous. Feminine energy tends to be flowing, open, wild, radiant. It can be felt as a creative expression of life force. The feminine is receptive, drawing energy toward her. Feminine archetypes include the innocent waif, wild goddess, radiant dancer, the mother.
I want to clarify something before we go any further, the majority of men have a natural and authentic masculine essence while a small percentage of men have a natural feminine essence and a small percentage have a neutral essence (neither strongly masculine nor strongly feminine). The reverse is true for women. Most women have an authentically feminine essence while a small percentage are masculine or neutral in their essence. There is no formula and there is no wrong or right. The invitation is simply for you to discover what’s true and authentic for you.
If you aren’t sure after reading the descriptions above what your natural essence is, here are some questions that can help you recognize your essence…
• Would you prefer a lover that is bigger than you, smaller than you, or the same size?
• Would you prefer to have a lover that is stronger than you or less strong than you?
• Would you prefer to more often court or be courted?
• Would you prefer to more often ravish or be ravished?
Stop for a moment and consider these definitions and questions. You’ll likely see aspects of yourself in both definitions and yet the questions may show you something different.
A person with a natural feminine essence will tend to desire a larger lover, a stronger lover, and would prefer to be courted and be ravished. While, alternatively, a masculine essence will tend to be most attracted to a smaller, less strong lover who they would prefer to court and ravish! Those with a more neutral essence will equally enjoy both sides of the spectrum or the size and strength of their lover will have no impact on their level of attraction.
It doesn’t matter what your essence is. You will simply be empowered to create polarity – magnetic attraction – when you know what it is and you live it authentically.
Are you ready for magnetic attraction?
Are you ready to live as a full expression of your natural sexual essence?
I promise you that when start to create relationships – whether hetrosexual or homosexual – where one partner, regardless of gender, primarily carries the masculine energy and the other person primarily carries the feminine energy – your levels of happiness, satisfaction and sexual attraction will skyrocket!
If you want to create more attraction, if you want to remove inauthentic “masks” so you can live as a full expression of your authentic nature, if you want to have an incredible relationship…where you fall in love over and over, where the love runs deep and the passion stays hot… and you’re just not sure where to start, schedule a complimentary 30-minute Discovery Call with me today.