Divine Feminine Energy Connection and Cultivation
When someone begins to investigate divine feminine energy they can rest assured that they have in fact made contact with this precious part of themselves. Then, having touched or sensed the sacred beauty and power that has lain dormant, one must decide whether to answer the call. One must decide how to respond to the sacred invitation to connect with, and deeply cultivate, this priceless aspect of their inner being that, to this point, has remained hidden, tucked away, untouched, and unexpressed.
This divine feminine energy, now more than ever, wants to be released, and set free in all beings. Yet, before that freeing can occur, the body, mind, and spirit must prepare itself to hold the immense power of this sacred aspect of the feminine. If you’re curious about how to cultivate your own Divine Feminine energy, you are ready to begin an incredible journey of awakening, coming alive and serving humanity.
What is the Divine Feminine?
To fully and viscerally answer the question, what is the Divine Feminine, we must develop the ability to feel and experience the feminine within ourselves, within others, and within the world. As you may know, every human being embodies and expresses both masculine and feminine energy. For most people, one energy expresses itself more predominantly than the other.
While masculine energy expresses as individuality, direction, purpose, discipline, drive, and determination in pursuit of a result, feminine energy expresses as compassion, creativity, sensitivity, softness, allowing, vulnerability, and flow. All of these combine within the feminine to invite unity.
Hearing that, some may project that masculine energy has more strength, garners more respect, and has more value. Others may have been conditioned to believe that the feminine is weak, passive, and even helpless, or lacking power. Nothing could be further from the truth. The Divine Feminine may actually hold the greatest power in existence. Divine Feminine energy is the power to unite, ignite, and energize everything in life.
All feminine energy is divine (but doesn’t always show up that way)
In reality, all feminine energy is Divine Feminine energy. Yet, in our human lives the feminine doesn’t always express or show up as divine. Femininity expresses in our humanness, or egoic nature, when motivated by personal gain rather than for the good of all. We can refer to this as the shadow side of femininity. This egoic or shadow side, because it is used for individual benefit, can bring out the unconscious and shadow qualities of the feminine such as manipulation and deceit. Therefore when distinguishing between egoic feminine energy and divine feminine energy we must remain aware of the motivation behind the actions.
As embodied human beings, whether we are conscious of it or not, we continually flow between our human side (our ego, character, personality, or unconscious nature) and our Divine side (our conscious, awake, unconditionally loving nature.) Our Divine nature is motivated by the highest good for all and expresses as a true Love for all.
Hence, the Divine Feminine is the unconditionally loving and uniting energy that moves within us and between us for the highest good of all. The Divine Feminine moves for the good of herself — in a Self-ish way, rather than a self-centered way — which means that what is truly good for the one is truly good for the whole. We embody divine feminine energy by moving from the heart, moving from love – love of self, love of other, love of all.
Divine Feminine energy moves for the good of all by moving for the good of herself.~ Joanna Shakti
Divine Feminine Meaning
As we deepen our exploration of Divine Feminine energy, we cannot ignore the fact that its fullest and most powerful expression depends on the Divine Masculine energy at its heart. The opposite holds true for the fullest expression of Divine Masculine energy. To be truly Divine, masculine energy must rest on the Divine Feminine energy within its core, within its heart. Neither Divine energy can express fully without the other.
With that, being the Divine Feminine mean allowing Life, all of life, to flow through you unrestrained, uninhibited, and unleashed. In other words the divine feminine surrenders fully to life as it is. She is ravished by Life in the most sacred ways and through her ravishment she brings heaven to earth. While it may appear to the human mind quite the opposite, this complete surrender as the Divine feminine is ultimate pure unconditional love, ultimate peace, and the ultimate unity we seek as human beings.
This undying love of the Divine Feminine shines as some of the most profound feminine archetypes. She nourishes and nurtures the divine mother. She brings the most profound and miraculous healing energies to life. She accepts and embraces all. She wants unity for all human beings regardless of any differences. In contrast and partnership, Divine Masculine embodiment offers the ultimate father energy, providing and protecting in all ways.
Let’s take our understanding of the meaning of Divine Feminine and explore how to awaken it within ourselves.
What is a Divine Feminine awakening?
A Divine Feminine awakening occurs when we begin to feel the rising of true unconditional love within. It’s indicated by a shift from resistance to allowing and flow, regardless of the circumstances of life. An awakening of the Divine Feminine causes an upsurgence of compassion, kindness, and tenderness. In awakening, the Divine Feminine energy within will concern itself with healing and connection.
She focuses on the wellbeing of the whole, the family of humanity, so to speak. When love begins speaking to you and through you in this way, you’ll know you have connected to and begun cultivating your Divine Feminine energy.
To be clear, a Divine Feminine awakening can occur in anyone regardless of gender, sex or orientation. As a matter of fact, for the wellbeing of both humanity itself, and for the wellbeing of the planet, we need to awaken the Divine Feminine in as many of us as possible.
This is not, however, something that happens overnight. We cannot just flip a switch inside and have Divine Feminine energy come to life. Again, as we said earlier, we must prepare a space for her to arise into. We must be willing to begin setting aside our personal agendas so that we may bring our attention and energy to the needs of the whole.
Now, again, that does not mean the individual human sets themselves aside in favor of the collective. The Divine Feminine serves the whole by first serving the individual who holds the whole in its heart. The Divine Feminine does not people please. She does not over sacrifice. She puts self-care first. Self-abandonment is definitely not a sign of a Divine Feminine awakening because the exhausted mother cannot serve the family. It is only the egoic or human shadow side of the feminine that would sacrifice to her continual detriment.
It is only the egoic or human shadow side of the feminine that would sacrifice to her continual detriment. The Divine Feminine cares for herself first.~Joanna Shakti
How to “Her” connect energetically
With this deepened understanding of the feminine — the “human” feminine and the Divine Feminine — as well as an awareness of how to recognize a Divine Feminine awakening, you have deepened in your preparation. We can now suggest a few specific steps to take, along with practices that you can use, to personally to cultivate your relationship with Divine Feminine energy and maintain that connection over time.
- Begin an active exploration of all the ways the feminine energy, both human and divine, expresses in the world.
- Bring an innocence and curiosity to your exploration. (Because in your exploration you may be confronted with feelings, ideas, and concepts that stir up resistance in you. To deepen your awareness you must stay open minded and hold a beginners attitude.)
- Every time a resistance or judgment shows up about feminine energy, consider its validity. With deep personal self-inquiry, see if you’ve simply held a limited concept of the feminine. Most people today have held this limited viewpoint, so you won’t be alone. And even though many hold these limiting beliefs, it’s up to you, and each of us individually, to clear out limiting perspectives and consciousness. Otherwise the critical Divine Feminine energy will never be set free to do her work to reunite and heal us as a planet and a species.
- Determine if your primary energy is masculine or feminine. (You can use the masculine-feminine test)
- Regardless of whether your predominant energy is masculine or feminine, pay particular attention to how the feminine expresses (or not) in you.
- Begin to explore your relationship to the divine feminine energies of compassion, kindness, softness and tenderness.
- Notice how much you embrace vs judge all expressions of humanity. The more you judge, the more you resist, the less space the Divine Feminine has to reveal itself.
- Notice if you over sacrifice, people please, or self-abandon. If you do, spend your time and energy getting support to shift these patterns.
- Notice how much access you have to true unconditional love, where you love no matter what.
- Put your attention on love and it will show you how to connect to your Divine Feminine energy by showing you what you need to release and what you need to open to, in order to know Love fully.
Collectively, we are calling in the sacred presence of the Divine Feminine. At the Vancouver Peace Summit 2009 the Dalai Lama stated, “The world will be saved by the western woman.”
What if it wasn’t just the western woman, what if it wasn’t just women, but the Divine Feminine in all of us that saved the world? We are in time that’s deeply calling for love, peace, respect, honor, and unity. We need healing as individuals, cultures, community, collectives, countries as well as for all expressions of humanity.
The only energy strong enough, powerful enough to create this healing is the Divine Feminine.
She’s not out there. She’s in here. In you. Now.
Will you get to know her? Will you open a space within you so that the Divine Feminine may rise?
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