Forgiveness makes Love Possible

The power of forgiveness changes everything in relationship… and Singles it will even help you find relationship…

How many times in your life have you done something you wish you hadn’t or wished you had done something and didn’t?  We all do this.  Conversely, how many times have you been on the flip side of this and wished that someone would apologize for something they did or didn’t do?


Forgiveness makes love possible


Apologies and forgiveness flow hand in hand.  We all make mistakes – at least if we fully live life we do.  And… I don’t think any of us ever truly intends to hurt another person, even when our actions can be quite hurtful.  Most often our hurtful words or actions arise as reactions born of our own pain.  It is in these moments, when we can recognize the drive behind our actions or, in other words, the pain behind our reaction… that we can stop and apologize to the person we have just impacted with our words or actions.


Our apology can change everything.


With or without an apology, it is our choice to forgive or to hold onto the pain.  Some people will be unable or unwilling to apologize.  In some cases, time has passed or in other cases, the person that we feel hurt by never knew their transgression.

Forgiveness is our choice.  It does not mean that we agree with or condone the other person’s behavior.  It simply means that we chose not to carry the hurt or pain forward in our bodies.  It means that we can see beyond the action (or inaction) and recognize that pain was the trigger.  We can look at the other person’s soul – at who they are as a human being – and forgive their soul – their humanness.


We often think that forgiveness is for the other person…

It is not.  It is for us.


When we choose not to forgive, we chose to carry the hurt or pain that happened with us in the cells of our bodies.  We are not doing the other person a favor when we forgive them. We are not hurting the other person or making them suffer when we chose not to forgive.  It is only us that is set free or us that suffers.  Have you ever noticed how much lighter your heart feels when you let go of the pain and forgive?


Who do you need to forgive?


The other person must deal with their own internal feelings about what they did or didn’t do and for them it is about self-forgiveness.

Self-forgiveness is an essential component of our own freedom and happiness.  Have you withheld forgiveness for yourself for something you’ve done in the past?  Are you still carrying around old guilt?  Your guilt isn’t helping the person you hurt or impacted.  It’s only holding you back from living life fully.


It’s time to forgive yourself.


Most often if we are carrying guilt, we are also afraid that whatever happened in the past could happen again and we feel that’s a risk we can not take – so we hold ourselves back.  We feel it’s not safe to let go and be ourselves.  This hugely impacts our relationships because the person we are relating to never gets to see our true self.  Or for you singles, holding onto the pain of the past may well be blocking you from seeing, attracting, or opening to a new partner.

Forgiveness – for yourself and for others – sets us free.  It opens the door to love and allows us to leave behind the baggage of the past and create a space for a profound and wonderful future.


It’s time to forgive.


Singles or couples, if you are ready to take your love-life to the next level, then please join us for the upcoming Passionate Partnership workshop and create a life filled with magical love and lasting attraction…

In love, light and ecstasy,


Joanna Shakti

*At Ecstatic Intimacy, an all-inclusive website for singles and couples, we welcome all sexual orientation(s), gender(s) and relationship expressions. In this article we utilize the pronouns he/she/him/her.

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