Frazzled or Radiant?

Which do you see more in women these days… frazzled or radiant?  Radiance, defined as vividly bright and shining or in other words glowing, pours forth from a healthy balanced female. It is this radiance that attracts our lovers. It is this radiance that draws strangers to us and has them feel safe enough to share their deepest longings with us. It is this radiance that makes women powerful in the business world.

Unfortunately, with the stresses, demands, and expectations women now carry, radiance has become less and less available to both the eyes of the beholder and the beholdee. Being radiant requires feeling rested, healthy, happy, and protected. When was the last time you or the women in your wife  really felt rested, healthy, happy, and protected? All at the same time? Hmmm…I suspect most of us would say, “It’s been a long time!”  Men, if you don’t really know, ask the women in your life.  I bet you’ll be surprised by the replies you receive.

Many women unknowingly traded in radiance for autonomy and now we are tired. This reminds me of a refrigerator magnet a wise older woman gave me when I was in my mid-twenties and in my first management position. I saved it because some part of me knew how telling it was. It said, “I am women. I am powerful. I am invincible. And now I’m tired.” I got it. Even then, just a few years out of college, I already felt drained by the masculine energy I had to manifest to complete engineering courses in college and then to manage a team of computer engineers and software developers. Ten years later, when I finally walked away from that career, my adrenals were burnt out and all I wanted to do was sleep.  And, I can feel the same way today if I forget my “Radiance Re-ignition” practices.

To return to our radiance and inner harmony, we must begin taking care of ourselves. Women can’t enjoy life or love when they are exhausted and frazzled. They need to put themselves at the top of the priority list at least a couple times each week.  Men, if you enjoy having a radiant woman around you, I suggest you actually help the women in your life have the time and freedom to take care of themselves, to reignite their glow.


Most women today have lost sight of the amazing power they possess. 


They often walk around tired, depressed, overwhelmed, and alone – even in a crowd. In the groundbreaking Fantastically Female workshop, women, you’ll discover how to access the magnetic, juicy, jazzed, happy, fun, free YOU and create the life you’ve been longing for!

Just one of the many things you’ll discover, you will know your personal “Radiance Reignition Ritual” that brings back your GLOW.  That’s the glow that makes you magnetically attractive in all areas of life!   

In love, light and ecstasy,

Joanna Shakti

*At Ecstatic Intimacy, an all-inclusive website for singles and couples, we welcome all sexual orientation(s), gender(s) and relationship expressions. In this article we utilize the pronouns he/she/him/her.

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