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Get Out of the Friend Zone Now

Are you tired of the friend and roommate zones?

Here are three primary reasons that men and women end up in the friend zone… and how to make sure it doesn’t happen to you.

First, You neutralize your sexual essence, which means you consciously, or more often unconsciously, turn down your masculine or feminine sexual energy, which zaps the spark and neutralizes the sexual chemistry.  Neutralized sexual energy almost guarantees you’ll end up in the friend-zone.

How do you stay out of neutral? Ignite the spark of polarity between the masculine and the feminine. If you’re masculine, be masculine. If you’re feminine, be feminine.



The second thing that puts you into the friend zone (or roommate zone) is that you show up as the nice girl or the nice guy. You try to make everybody else happy and you set yourself aside. I hate to say it, but nice just isn’t sexy! It is not a turn on! It’s why women are sometimes attracted to the bad boy. The truth is, we don’t really want the bad boy, we want confidence.  Men want confidence, women want confidence. The nice girl and the nice guy, they aren’t usually so confident.

Third, as time progresses, you don’t talk about the problems, the frustrations, the challenges that inevitably show up in a relation. Those unspoken words become the elephant in the room and you stuff them under the rug. When you stuff it under the rug, the rug can take it for a while, but pretty soon it grows. There’s a big mound of hurts and upsets under the rug… and one of you is standing on one side and one of you is standing on the other side, and at least one of you is saying, “I can’t feel you anymore. I don’t know if I love you anymore. No, I don’t want to have sex!”

That’s the dreaded friend zone, and it’s lonely, even with someone sleeping next to you.

What do you when you find yourself in the friend zone while dating or in a relationship?

Stop settling, and selling yourself out! Honor you!

Be honest, be real, be authentic! Stop being the nice girl or the nice guy. It really is that simple.

If my examples sound like you or your relationship, then it’s time to do some soul searching. It’s time to wake up and find your sexy… and get out of the friend zone!

Before I close, let me say this.  Male or female, if you’re in the friend zone, you are very likely out of touch with your soul and it’s desires for love, intimacy and passion.

In the meantime, here’s to passionate intimate soul love!

In love, light and ecstasy,

Joanna Shakti

*At Ecstatic Intimacy, an all-inclusive website for singles and couples, we welcome all sexual orientation(s), gender(s) and relationship expressions. In this article we utilize the pronouns he/she/him/her.

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  1. Rhiannon clemons on October 5, 2017 at 7:01 pm

    so i really like this boy and i want to be more then friends but he dosnt and my feelings for him are pretty deep how do i get out of the friend zone 🙁

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