How are you feeling about your romantic relationship right now? Or are you single and dreaming of a great relationship or are you single and fed up with relationships all together? If you are in a relationship, is it thriving, growing, fun and fulfilling? Or are you secretly hoping that somehow someday it will get more passionate, more intimate, more connected, more fulfilling?
If you are hoping for more or better… in your current relationship or in one you’d like to create, lets look at what makes great relationships great!
When you look at great relationships, you’ll typically find some common signatures to those relationships. First, you have two independent – yet interdependent people. They each know who they are and they authentically express their needs wants and desires. Yet they know their partner can’t meet their every need. They know their partner can’t make them happy. They are inherently happy within themselves and the relationship magnifies and amplifies the happiness that already exists within them.
They play together with their partner… They have sex with their partner (frequently – not just once in a while)… They talk to their partner and they don’t hide.
They keep the passion alive thorough magnetic attraction because they recognize and celebrate the dance of the masculine and feminine.
They honor each other and they certainly don’t take each other or the relationship for granted. They know forgiveness is essential and they keep an open heart… they openly give love and they genuinely receive love.
So as you reflect on your love life, are you playing for GREAT love or are you getting by with ho-hum pretty good love? Or are you feeling a bit barren in the love department?
Are you ready for more? To offer more of yourself? To receive more love? To play more? To love more? To share more? To have more sizzle and spark?
Are you unsure how to get there? Then you are like the millions of others out there… just like you and me who never learned how to be in relationship, who never learned how to handle the inherent hardships of life, who never learned how to have great sex. Most of us grew up where the details of our parent’s intimacy was hidden. We didn’t see the affection… we didn’t see how they worked out challenges between them. Most of us were more impacted by hearing or watching our parents argue… or watching one of them cry or be so angry with the other. Today, almost half of us have seen our parent’s marriages end in divorce. No wonder you might struggle to have a great relationship.
At the same time, I notice that every one of us, somewhere deep inside, knows profound love and joyful connection are possible. It’s true. I’m on a mission to bring awareness and conscious to relationships. I am committed to touching the lives of billions who have suffered from relationship and sexual pain and trauma so that they instead experience passion, unity and bliss…everyday.
I hope you’ll join me in this mission. I hope you are as committed to having peace, joy, love and passion in your relationships as I am committed to you experiencing that!
If you are ready… What’s your next step?
• Is it time to have a conversation with your partner? To share something you been holding back?
• Is it time to pick up a book and learn something new about love?
• Is it time to heal the pain of the past that holds your heart closed?
• Is it time to get to a workshop and start learning and practicing some new ways to love?
I challenge you to take a stand for greater love in your life!
What are you going to do today?
*At Ecstatic Intimacy, an all-inclusive website for singles and couples, we welcome all sexual orientation(s), gender(s) and relationship expressions. In this article we utilize the pronouns he/she/him/her.