How to Reverse Feeling Emasculated: 15 ReEmpowering Practices

For both a man or a relationship impacted by emasculation, learning how to reverse feeling emasculated matters, especially if a relationship is to survive. For some the relationship where the emasculation occurred has long since ended, yet the devastating impact of this often invisible harm still remains. Any mental or emotional remnants of past emasculating experiences can quickly sabotage new efforts to cultivate love and intimacy, or even professional success. 

As you’ll see, emasculation deeply affects the self-esteem of predominantly masculine beings who are often, but not always, men. Before we can understand how to reverse feeling emasculated, we have to understand what it is, who it impacts, and how to recognize it. Let’s start with what it is.

In a nutshell, any behavior that, whether intentional or unintentional, serves to minimize or take away masculine power or confidence, has an emasculating effect. Emasculation leaves a man, or masculine person, feeling less confident, less capable, less certain, and of course less powerful. 

Emasculating behaviors, most often arise in feminine beings and effectively serve to disempower the masculine person with whom they are interacting. What most don’t realize is that masculine and feminine power express very differently in the world. The masculine and feminine lead and influence quite differently. They also contribute unique, but equally important, gifts in the world.

Unfortunately in their forgetting, feminine beings all too often imagine that they gain power by reducing the power of the masculine. Women and feminine beings don’t realize that they have immense power within themselves that doesn’t require “taking down” the masculine. Even more unfortunately, feminine beings all too often emasculate and disempower someone they deeply love. In truth, as you’ll see, both the masculine and the feminine lose in the face of emasculation. 

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The cost of emasculation and what to do about it

To understand the impact of emasculation and why masculine beings have to know how to reverse feeling emasculated, we want to consider the relationship and interplay of masculine and feminine energies within us and between us. 

Masculine energy leads and feminine energy follows. Feminine energy nurtures while masculine energy directs. Masculine energy penetrates while feminine energy yields. Masculine energy provides and protects while feminine energy receives and nourishes. 

If emasculating behaviors neutralize or “remove” the masculine energy from a relationship, then correspondingly the feminine partner loses the presence, contribution, and passion she actually needs and desires in a partner. This unfortunately becomes a vicious cycle because as she loses more of what she longs for in a relationship, she will often react in more emasculating ways. 

In contrast, the strength of any romantic relationship depends on the presence of masculine energy, just as it depends on feminine energy. Without the structure and container of masculine energy, relationships will tend to crumble – sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly and painfully over time. In the aftermath of consistent emasculation, whether intentional or unintentional, masculine support disappears. The feminine, in her attempts to feel safe, will have unknowingly rendered the man in her life powerless. He then becomes less attractive, by her own doing. 

Sometimes the feminine’s emasculating behaviors will directly disempower the masculine. Sometimes the impact will be inadvertent, such as when a feminine being retains all control and erects walls around her so as not to risk hurt. But, simultaneously she shuts the masculine out and shuts him down. At that point, no matter how much the masculine tries to contribute to her life and her heart she won’t feel the love nor the support. 

In a moment we’ll get to the specifics of how to reverse feeling emasculated and the 15 re-empowering practices, but first let’s consider how the masculine contributes to the situation and why understanding that helps to solve the problem.

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When learning how to reverse feeling emasculated, the masculine also contributes to the problem

Here we also have to mention that the masculine partner plays a complicit role in the emasculation because he allows himself to be treated that way. Acknowledging that, we must still admit that feminine emasculating behaviors themselves have a more devastating impact than anyone might imagine. 

Interestingly, in contrast, those men or people who hold hyper, or what we might describe as “over-amped” masculine energy, also sometimes known as the bully or bad boy, won’t allow themselves to be emasculated in the first place. This doesn’t mean their relationships are any more successful, far from it in fact. Yet, the distinction is worth noting. Those who deeply embody the masculine, ideally consciously, cannot be easily emasculated. 

A man who hasn’t found the inner strength and conscious certitude to maintain his masculine energy will, on the other hand, allow himself to be emasculated. His feminine partner will have unknowingly contributed to the collapse of the very masculine being she so desperately wanted to be loved and supported by. 

Let’s look now at the solution.

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How to reverse feeling emasculated: Empowering Practices

If emasculating someone takes away power and leaves the person feeling disempowered, our exploration into how to reverse feeling emasculated looks specifically at ways to reconnect to and reclaim that specific masculine power in a conscious way. 

1. Develop the capacity to say no. You’ll want to stop going along to get along. You’ll need to say no when something doesn’t fit for you, your needs or desires. 

2. Get clear on your boundaries. Be honest with yourself about what works for you and what doesn’t. When something doesn’t work for you or isn’t a fit with your values, these become your boundaries. Set them and stand by them.

3. Spend time with yourself. While it may be uncomfortable at first, you’ll want to take the time to understand and remember what truly matters to you. Learn your values and use your boundaries to ensure you don’t compromise yourself. True love doesn’t require settling or selling yourself out.

4. Spend time around women or feminine beings who highly respect the masculine. Expose yourself to what it feels like to be appreciated and highly regarded. These women exist. Find them and spend time with them as friends and other human beings. 

5. Learn to trust yourself. Clear up old consciousness and conditioning that drives you to question and doubt yourself. Lack of self trust and self doubt makes you an easier target for emasculation. 

6. Don’t defend. Stand in your truth without defending it. Simply honor it. The minute you move into justifying and defending language or behaviors you have once again collapsed your own energy. 

7. Watch out for the people pleaser in you. Keep an eye out for the people pleaser in you who searches for, or tries to keep, love by giving up, compromising, or avoiding conflict. Most importantly, learn how this type of self abandonment harms relationships. 

8. Get comfortable being assertive. As you learn how to reverse feeling emasculated, you’ll need to get comfortable with assertive energy in you. Of course you’ll want to do that respectfully, and allowing yourself to be assertive matters. For example, if a partner nags or pushes against your boundaries you could reply, “I love you and I’ve got this. Please don’t ask me again.” 

9. Review your beliefs about masculinity. Many men allow themselves to be emasculated because they don’t want to fall into the “toxic” masculinity category. Yet, masculinity is not toxic. As you’re reconnecting to your power and confidence, make sure you find a way to clear out any resistance to your own innate masculinity.  

10. Stop comparing yourself to others. Any form of comparison will always leave you feeling less than. You don’t want to compare yourself to other men or masculine beings, and you definitely don’t want to compare yourself to a woman or feminine being in your life. Others accomplishments mean nothing about you. 

11. Take action. After being emasculated you can feel paralyzed to decide and to act. If you want to reverse feeling emasculated quickly, you’ll want to find a way to get back into action. This will help build self trust as well. Seriously, any action, even one you decide later wasn’t the best one, can help you feel empowered again.

12. Honor your word. Staying true to your word and your commitments again rebuilds your trust and belief in yourself. Every time you’re in integrity your self esteem gets stronger. 

13. Commit to authenticity. If you’re being authentic you can’t lose yourself the way you did in the presence of the past emasculating experiences. You might just come to realize that authentic relationships are the safest relationships.

14. Hang out with other conscious men or masculine people. Spending time with, talking to, and witnessing the embodiment, expressions, and behaviors of other masculine beings will strengthen your knowing that masculine energy is not only conscious but is important, appreciated, and deeply desired. 

15. Deepen your self respect. Self respect allows you to set and keep boundaries. It makes it possible to stand for your values. If you’re really committed to reversing feeling emasculated you’ll even learn how to love yourself. Loving yourself is not soft or weak. It’s the most important and powerful thing you could do for you or your relationship.

You’re invited to take these practices one step at a time. You won’t be able to integrate them all at once and that’s normal. We suggest starting with the practices that feel the most challenging. When you embody the most uncomfortable of the steps, you will have not only started a huge reversal in feeling emasculated, you will have significantly strengthened your relationship with you and your power. You’ll quickly see the differences in your life and your relationships. 

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Moving Beyond: the Consciously Empowered and Divine Masculine 

When either masculine energy or feminine energy is weakened, the strength of the connection between the two, the trust of the other, and the honor of the other all diminish simultaneously. Herein lies the reason the vast majority of relationships struggle to stay in love and keep the passion alive today. 

To have healthy and happy relationships, to end the struggles we face in the world today, and to have truly healthy bodies we must embrace, honor, and celebrate both the masculine and feminine. If you’re a predominantly masculine being, you can support yourself, the women in your life, as well as society itself by stepping into your own divine masculine embodiment.

If you want to help end the longstanding battles between the masculine and feminine, your choices matter. How you show up in your relationships matters. Whether masculine or feminine by nature, you’ll help yourself and others by understanding and recognizing these 12 emasculating behaviors to be aware of. If you’re a feminine being, please take the time to truly consider the unconscious ways you may be emasculating, and then learn how to take care of yourself in a way that doesn’t require reducing the power of the masculine. When that happens we’ll no longer need to know how to reverse feeling emasculated.

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