Ecstatic Intimacy For Women
Dear Strong Independent Woman,
As I sit down to write this note to you, I'm remembering the successes and failures of my corporate career coupled with the simultaneous demise of my marriage.
I didn't actually trust men and I repelled the very men that most lit my fire. My so-called "best self" pushed the men I desired away. I was left with lots of questions and lots of tears.
I was beating out the boys in the High-Tech and Oil & Gas industries and yet never felt the satisfaction. There was so much pressure to perform that I completely denied my feminine energy, but damn, I wanted a man more powerful than me.
The very same thing that makes us successful, strong, independent women is also destroying our relationships.
My intensity and commitment made me great friends and colleagues with men, but romantically unattractive. I thought I was being exactly what men wanted (and, truthfully, what I thought would keep me safe) but it was doing the exact opposite.
Gratefully, I aligned my power and independence with my genuine femininity...
The careful opening of our hearts allows us to be both powerful, and have the love of a great man. This is my prayer for you.
Women, Independence Builds Barriers & Equality Kills Passion
I know it might sound crazy that equality kills passion and independence builds barriers. But, it's the absolute truth.
When our heart yearns for love, it's funny (or not), but it's as if we lose all of our "smarts" and too often lose ourselves.
If you're like the thousands of independent women I've supported, you too have been conditioned to do things backwards.
You don't have to "have it all together." You don't have to prove how strong or independent you are for a man to love you. You definitely don't have to carry your equal weight.
And you can't make excuses for a man you're in love with.
When we wake up to the truth that our strategies to find and keep love aren't working, we begin to explore the reasons love remains elusive. We start asking, "What's my part?"
Here are the 3 barriers women unconsciously build against love…
Barrier #1: You Sell Yourself Out
When you don't want to be a bother, inconvenience, or a burden, or especially a high maintenance woman; When you think it's better to give than receive; When you want to avoid upsets, you'll sacrifice, you'll do just about anything, including twisting yourself into a pretzel to be what you think he wants. As a result, he actually stops showing up and loses interest.
Barrier #2: You Think You Want Your Man to Act Like You
You imagine that you want a sweet, sensitive guy who will truly get your heart - who will effortlessly meet you in the depths and throes of intimate conversation and share his true emotions. You picture him being there whenever you need him - but somehow you lose respect. He's no longer "man" enough for you. Unwittingly, in his attempts to be what you think you want, you set him up to fail.
Barrier #3: You Think Feminine Is Weak
If the idea of being feminine raises your dander or makes you uncomfortable, if you think feminine energy is weak, passive, needy, or means you'll be taken advantage of and not respected, there's another perspective. The truth is genuine femininity couldn't be more powerful - it's often more impactful than masculine power. And, yes, as the Dalai Lama indicated nearly a decade ago, it is the true feminine (think feminine energy) that's needed to heal and unite our world.
What Men Want You To Know
Ladies, I'll say it straight out - men want to be your hero.
Unfortunately, you don't let them. You probably don't realize you're not letting them.
As a result, you miss out on the attention, affection, and generosity you're craving and truly deserve.
If a masculine man can't contribute to your life in significant ways he will simply stop trying. And eventually leave -- looking for someone who will receive what he has to offer. Conscious masculine men don't just want to provide and protect, they have to in order to stay in love.
Men also need your respect. They want your admiration. And, when you are always proving you don't need them or worse yet, that you know how to do it better than they do, they give up, "Why bother?" Your heart hurts and so does theirs.
They want to hold you. They want to see you shine.
It's time to let down the protective armor, relax, and receive again.
Yes, you. It's time to believe in men again and let yourself be taken care of. Sometimes it's easier said than done.
The Sacred Feminine Experience
Trusting Him, Trusting Love
You want to trust him. More than anything you want to trust he'll do what he says and that he's got your back. Trust doesn't start with him. Awake conscious men are incredibly trustworthy, and you'll never find a perfect man who won't let you down. The key is believing in yourself and your feminine energy enough to know that you'll be ok, even when he isn't perfect.
Calling Him In
Whether you're single and looking for your one, or you're married and longing to reconnect with your beloved, your feminine energy, the way you show up -- on your profile, on a date, in the kitchen, on his front doorstep, in the bedroom and everywhere in between -- determines the strength of the attractive force you create between the two of you.
Attention, Affection and Intimacy
No more longing. No more hoping and wishing. When you realize the deeper desire to be soft, surrendered, even vulnerable -- you then get to have all the attention, affection and intimacy you desire. You get to enjoy all the cuddling, conversations, and tender lovemaking you've ever imagined -- with a strong powerful man with a truly open heart.
What's your Sexual Essence?
What is Feminine Energy?
Unblocking Feminine Energy
The Sacred Feminine
You want to know the deepest realms of love.
That doesn't start with finding the right guy or your guy showing up better. It starts with you knowing you. Trusting you. Being you. In a way you've never considered before.
I'll invite you to see the extraordinary and rare woman you are. I'll invite you to acknowledge that your heart and soul know a deeper truth. And they're guiding you to open and receive the fullness of love.
New is scary. Especially when you're used to being in control.
Acknowledge the courage of being right here, right now.
…He reaches out to her and pulls her tight… welcoming her radiant light into his tired body. He releases her for now… knowing their bodies will unite in the coming hours.
He offers her his fullness, his presence. He sees her. He feels her. His strength and his tenderness, his penetration and his embrace, his caresses and his lust, his power and his openness bring all passion, all sensation, all bliss, all ecstasy to life. She gives herself in pleasure to him.
She knows her wholeness, her fullness, her succulent beauty. She revels in it. She honors it. She nurtures and embraces the radiance, beauty, love, sensuality, and sexuality that shine through her body… surrendering it fully open. Her radiance and light nourish him...