Is this the one?

Is this ‘The One’? How to Answer *that* Question

Have you ever wondered if the one you’re dating is your one? Or, if you should stay in the relationship you’re in?

Here are 5 key things to contemplate when considering, “Is this the one?”


1. Are you absolutely clear on your relationship vision?

Do you know what you want to create and experience in your relationship?

Do you know what you must have, and what breaks the deal?

The problem is that if you don’t know what you truly desire, you have no way of knowing if you have it!

And, by the way, this is not about the list of qualities he or she has. It’s not about how tall he is, or the color of her hair, or the shape of her body. It’s about the experience you want to have in relationship.


2. Are you being the partner you need to be to have the relationship you desire?

So often we’re quick to blame the other person and we are equally responsible for not creating a great partnership. So, if you’re not consistently being the partner you need to be to have the relationship you want, pay attention to you first.   (And, if you can’t be fully you with this person, that’s something to take note of too.)



3. Feel what you feel.

As Brandon Bays says, “Emotions are the barometer of the soul.”  This is not a decision of the mind. This is not a pros and cons decision.

This is a knowing of the heart.


4. If you feel like there’s a potential future together, but there’s something that you need or desire, then communicate.

The other person can’t support you if they don’t know your needs and desires.


5. Listen to your body.

Think less and feel more, and you will know when you’re meant to know.

Stop rushing.

If you try to figure it out, the answer will allude you.

As you journey down this path of love, if you’d like more wisdom and insights on how to have a conscious, passionate and deeply connected relationship, you’ll find advice here.

In love, light and ecstasy,

Joanna Shakti

*At Ecstatic Intimacy, an all-inclusive website for singles and couples, we welcome all sexual orientation(s), gender(s) and relationship expressions. In this article we utilize the pronouns he/she/him/her.

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