Let the Wild Side Out!

Is there a part of you that you don’t let out to play?  …that you keep leashed up… controlled… contained?   In the bedroom?  With your clients?  With your friends?

There is in me… or at least there was a part that, for years (it feels like a lifetime), I not only kept tightly leashed, but I actually did everything I could to deny her existence.  I know she still hasn’t shown herself fully yet… but I have FINALLY given her permission to come out and play.

Not only have I given her permission to come out and play, I’ve gave her permission to exist… I stopped trying to kill her spirit.

You see she felt like such a threat, such a liability.  My mind would say so loudly at times… “Control yourself!   Be Good!  Be Nice (ie. polite, well behaved, even saintly.)  People don’t like it when you get too wild… too excited… too passionate.  It scares them… They go away…  People want you to be normal.  They like the status quo.”

That’s my mind trying to keep me safe, loved, wanted and respected.  It’s funny… I wanted to feel free so much that I’d try to get the people around me to be that way, so that I would have permission to be more wild. Honestly, I’d even get mad at them when they weren’t, yet I wasn’t willing to put myself out there and be free.   I was trying to get those feelings from other people… while I was doing the exact opposite to myself.  It wasn’t fair.

When I’m really honest, it’s not playing it safe, pure, clean, or appropriate that has people love me, want to be around me, or support me.  What people really want is REAL.  They want other people to be real so they can relax, let down their guard and be real too.  I’ve had so many people say “I love your realness.”… yet still I’ve tried to control myself… be appropriate, be the way I’m supposed to be.


Do you play nice in the world so people like you?


…So they don’t leave, so they respect you or admire you?  Do you keep tucked away that “naughty” side, that disagreeing side, the part who wants to buck the norm, or say “screw it” and let it all hang out?  Yet you never let it out because it feels too risky…

Or are you more like I was and you put the wild, loud-mouth, boisterous, radical, different, sexy part of you away so long ago you don’t even know it exists any more?


Notice your body right now…


As you read, notice your body.  Is there something stirring?  Something nudging you to pay attention?  Is there a voice that wants to be heard?  Is there a power that’s done being repressed?  Is there a desire that wants to not only be acknowledged…


but wants be lived… lived fully… lived with wild abandon?!


Is there a calling you’ve been ignoring?  Is it time to finally speak what you’ve been holding back?  Is it an orgasmic scream that wants to be released?  Is it time to tell someone what you really think or feel?  Is it time to stand up for what’s right?

What dream are you ready to say yes to…  is it a new job or business?  Having a great relationship?   Exploring Sacred Sensuality?   What have you been denying within yourself?


It’s time to let it out…. The world needs your wild side… your unleashed passion, your self-expression.  It needs the real you.


What would it be like to wake up full of life… looking forward to the day… happy to be you… inspired by your work… thrilled to be in love… still in the bliss of last night’s frolic with your lover… or simply the magic of your life?


It starts with you.   It starts with me.


I have to say yes to me.  You have to say yes to you.  Then we really get to play together.  Neither one of us can share our greatness with another if we don’t let our greatness out, if we’re not living it ourselves.  I’m reminded of a bumper sticker…

 “Well behaved women never change history.”


No one can bring it out of you… I know.  I tried.  I thought, “Oh the right man will bring it out… Well, ok, he wasn’t the right one.  I’ll find the right one… No, he wasn’t the right one, he didn’t bring it out either.”  And, I kept searching… man after man… But a man couldn’t bring it out of me.  I have to let it out of me.   I had to say yes.  Women… no man can bring it out of you.

Men… no woman can bring it out of you either.  No woman can prove you’re a great loverYou have to bring that to her.  No woman can love or admire you enough for you to feel powerful.  You have to be powerful.  You have to be it.


You have to be it.


With all love,


P.S. If it’s time to stop to wishing, stop regretting, stop being jealous of your friends and neighbors that have it better…

If you’re ready to say yes to waking up happy, on fire, full of love, being a magnet for great passion, generating incredible results…

Then it’s time to decide… to say,


“I give my wild, unruly, creative, passionate side permission to be…

permission to live freely and fully!”


P.P.S. And if you get stuck… email me.  I’m here and I’d love to help you set you free!

In love, light and ecstasy,

Joanna Shakti

*At Ecstatic Intimacy, an all-inclusive website for singles and couples, we welcome all sexual orientation(s), gender(s) and relationship expressions. In this article we utilize the pronouns he/she/him/her.

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