Overcoming Old Programming

A while back in a conversation with one of my coaches, we were talking about something I really wanted to do, and a part of me was resisting – even procrastinating.  Ever been there?

As I looked at the situation, first I thought about overriding my resistance.  I saw myself pushing through the fear and I said to her, “If I was really courageous, I would…” and I described exactly what I wanted to do.

She invited me to notice that I already have the resources I needed and asked, “What if you were already courageous?” It was a great question.  I did have the courage and I realized there was an even better question.  I asked myself, “Why do I even need courage, what specifically, do I need courage to overcome?”

Then it was obvious… First, I was telling myself stories, based on old beliefs, that I really wasn’t allowed to ask for what I wanted.  I had beliefs and stories running from the past that said I would be greedy or that what I was asking for was too big… that I didn’t deserve that big of a gift.  Second, there were emotions I didn’t want to risk feeling and that’s why I needed courage!  I didn’t want to risk feeling judged or rejected!  Ugh!

There it is again…


Feared emotions and conditioning from the past

will stop us from experiencing our dreams every time!


Notice how often you orchestrate your life to be sure that you never even have to risk repeating uncomfortable experiences from the past.  Stop for a moment and notice, what kinds of experiences have you had in the past that some part of your being says… “I never want that to happen again”?  Notice how the actions you take (or don’t take) in life are totally in line with your desire to protect yourself from ever having that experience again.

What if those protective behaviors stop you from actually opening up and being fully available in relationship… and the relationship of your dreams never seems to really blossom?  What if those strategies you use to protect yourself actually hold you back from diving into the career or life’s work you are truly passionate about?  What if, maybe even unconsciously, you are so afraid of failing or being rejected that you never take the risk you need to take to attract the love or abundance of wealth and prosperity into your life that you know is possible?


Is it time to start living in the present and living the life you truly want?  Is it time to step beyond fears, mistakes, and judgments of the past? 


Notice what you need courage for this week and then look deeper.  What is it that you are really afraid to experience?  I’ll bet it’s either an experience from the past or an emotion.  Can you step beyond the past and turn and face the possibility of an emotion –not the reality – just the possibility…?  I wonder what would be different in your life next week…

If you find yourself stuck and you are truly ready to step forward into the peace, joy, love, passion and abundance that you truly deserve (and you do deserve it!) …

And you are ready to step into your fullest potential in life and love,

then Contact me this week.  Contact me with a question, with a fear… or how about sharing a dream?

Take the first step and the universe will support you… You must take the first step.  And, I’ll help support you in taking the second.

In love, light and ecstasy,

Joanna Shakti

*At Ecstatic Intimacy, an all-inclusive website for singles and couples, we welcome all sexual orientation(s), gender(s) and relationship expressions. In this article we utilize the pronouns he/she/him/her.

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