The brilliance of you… There is nothing more valuable than you. Now that might sound self-centered and arrogant and I invite you to hear me out.
Yes… interaction with others can ignite the feeling of deep love and without YOU that love can’t be felt or experienced. Here’s where it gets worse… some of us are so disconnected from ourselves that no matter how much love surrounds us, we can’t feel it. In relationship, there is no relating with out you.
With my clients and program participants, I’m constantly reminding them that the relationship with themselves sets the foundation for EVERY other relationship.
Without you, you cannot value the interaction with another. Love is “known” because of what happens to YOU… because you can FEEL it. A relationship happens because you share the experiences you have together, the emotions you feel, the sensations that arise.
It is YOU that knows, “Is this a deeply valuable connection?” It is YOU that recognizes, “Is this someone I want to spend more time with?” “Is this someone who opens me?”
Every experience in life has value only because you are in it.
Think of skiing… Imagine skiing without being able to feel the experience. It would be meaningless. The exhilaration, the joy comes from feeling the speed, seeing the majestic mountains and the feeling they give you, feeling the cold snow against your body in a fall, or even the feeling of a lovely achy body after a day played especially well… It sounds funny, yet it’s a great metaphor for relationship (and lovemaking…)
Life without feelings has no meaning. Feelings without YOU are impossible. Life without you is not life.
Yet… you ignore you. You ignore your feelings… You ignore the sensations in your body. Why?
What if today was the day to start really paying attention to you? even REVERING you?
Yes… revering. Revering means giving deep honor and respect to this thing call YOU.
When you know you… you will find ultimate connection… ultimate love… but not until.
I love you. Do you?
*At Ecstatic Intimacy, an all-inclusive website for singles and couples, we welcome all sexual orientation(s), gender(s) and relationship expressions. In this article we utilize the pronouns he/she/him/her.