The 1 Reason Relationships Fail

The #1 Reason Relationships Fail

Would you like to know the #1 reason why relationships fail and make sure it doesn’t happen to you?


The number one reason why relationships fail is because YOU aren’t actually in it.

You might be saying, wait a second, I was the one having sex, I was the one crying the tears, I was the one getting yelled at.

Yes, I’m with you, that’s true and in all likelihood you were bringing a pseudo-front to you. You were trying to be who you thought you were supposed to be. You were trying to be the person you thought would be loved, but, the true you was MIA.

We think we have great reasons to go MIA. We want the other person to be happy. We don’t want them to be upset. We don’t want to deal with a fight. We don’t want to rock the boat.. and we make the other person’s experience more important than our own.  That never works.


Here’s why relationships fail and what that looks like when the true you goes MIA

You lose yourself in a relationship. You say, “I’m fine,” when you’re not fine. You don’t want to have a fight so you stuff what you feel.  You don’t speak until that point where you break down in tears or you explode. That’s never good. Or, you twist yourself into that pretzel trying to make love work… when it’s not working.

Simply put, if you twist yourself into a pretzel, settle or sell yourself out trying to make love work, the true you is MIA. This is self-abandonment and sadly, shockingly, it is the number one destroyer of intimate relationships. It’s why relationships fail.  Self-abandonment is the breeding ground of resentment. It’s the killer of connection and chemistry.

Want to know the antidote to self-abandonment? Want to know how to make sure your relationship doesn’t end up in breakup or divorce? Then you have to have what I call Ecstatic Authenticity.



Ecstatic Authenticity means that you love being you so much that you never again twist yourself into a pretzel, settle, or sell yourself out for anybody or anything ever again!

In short, it means love yourself and when you love yourself… connection and chemistry come alive. You are going to feel comfortable in your own skin.  You are going to feel naturally confident, sexy and attractive.


If you don’t feel sexy and confidence doesn’t come naturally. If you’ve had one too many relationships fail…

If you’re actually ready for love that lasts, if you want to know how to find and create a relationship where the love runs deep and the passion stays hot, then we invite you to schedule a private Igniting Soul Love Session. Plan for at least 60 minutes.

In love, light and ecstasy,

Joanna Shakti

*At Ecstatic Intimacy, an all-inclusive website for singles and couples, we welcome all sexual orientation(s), gender(s) and relationship expressions. In this article we utilize the pronouns he/she/him/her.

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