Relationships without Polarity

Relationships without Polarity

Let’s look at the dance of the masculine and feminine from another perspective.  As a women growing up in the heart of the Women’s Movement, it had an interesting impact on my life as you probably know.  I became a very masculinized woman who was very unhappy.  This article is a reflection of my experience as I have witnessed myself, other women, and the men who love us evolve through these changing times… As women became more masculine in their day-to-day existence, a law of nature took over in men. As a result of this law, men automatically had to draw out more of their feminine nature to counterbalance women’s increased masculinity. Why? It’s simple.

You’ve probably seen at some point in your life how two magnets attract each other, and then noticed that if you turn one of the magnets around, the two magnets will actually repel each other. In simple scientific terms, one end of any given magnet will have a positive pole while the other has a negative pole. If you put the two negative poles of two magnets together or the two positive poles together they will repel each other. When you put a positive pole next to a negative pole they attract each other.

You can think of masculinity and femininity in the same way as positive and negative poles of a magnet. When you put a person exuding strong masculine energy next to person exuding strong feminine energy there will likely be a strong attraction. The gender of the two individuals doesn’t even matter. A female body exuding masculine energy will be highly attractive to a male body exuding feminine energy, just like a male body exuding masculine energy will be drawn to a female body exuding femininity. This phenomenon of masculine-feminine attraction occurs regardless of sexual orientation, so it is seen in homosexual couples as well. When two males or two females come together in a relationship, the strongest attraction and chemistry exist when one person in the couple holds masculine energy while the other holds feminine energy. You’ve heard the old adage, “opposites attract.” This is absolutely the truth.


Opposites Attract


As women became more masculine in the workplace, they brought that masculine energy home to their husbands and boyfriends who, of course, were energetically masculine and uh-oh! They repelled each other. Now we might not have immediately identified it as being repelled. We might not have even noticed that we were less attracted to our partners. As time passed though, we started looking at our partners and they just weren’t as sexy or attractive as they once were.

Nature doesn’t want us to be repelled and so natural shifts happen. Since women were holding tightly to their new found masculine energy, the men they loved shifted into more feminine energy to recreate the attraction of opposites. That was great for awhile, but as the men in our lives expressed less of their masculine nature, the woman in us got frustrated because we were still attracted to that masculine energy that we now repelled!

Men less often took the lead, they stopped opening doors for us, they no longer made the plans, and we felt like we couldn’t depend on them.  To top it off, we women thought it was their fault. It was no one’s fault. It was just a simple and natural shift of nature so that attraction again existed. Then we had a whole new set of challenges to deal with…

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In love, light and ecstasy,


Joanna Shakti

*At Ecstatic Intimacy, an all-inclusive website for singles and couples, we welcome all sexual orientation(s), gender(s) and relationship expressions. In this article we utilize the pronouns he/she/him/her.

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