Self Love Words: 77 Ways to Say I Love You to Yourself
Knowing the variety of self love words that allow you to both express love to yourself and feel loved matters immensely. For many, the entire concept of self love seems vague at best. Too often when we think of loving ourselves, we think of doing things for ourselves. Yet, while we do nice things for ourselves, we might also harbor a very critical inner voice. We might speak to ourselves in ways that we would never speak to another, which creates an inner experience that’s far from self loving.
Therefore it’s important to develop a vocabulary of self love words. Whether we speak to ourselves out loud or simply silently in our own head, we want to learn to speak with love. No, speaking words of self love is not conceited or egotistical. It is kind, compassionate, and inspiring. Self love words actually bring out the best in us.
Learning to speak to yourself this way may feel uncomfortable or awkward initially. A part of us might even think of speaking self love words as dumb. Yet, the more weird or strange it feels, the more important it is that you practice saying these kinds of loving words to yourself.
Below you’ll find 67 different phrases that you can say to yourself that express self love. After that you’ll find some tangible ways to embody and put your self love words into action. Finally, we’ll give you a way to come up with your own personal self love words.
How to say “I Love You” to yourself
This initial set of self love words and phrases incorporate many different ways to love, appreciate, and acknowledge yourself. You’ll quickly notice many of the same things you would say if you wanted to express love to another. Now, it’s time to say those words to you too.
In the beginning as you develop your comfort and capacity to speak lovingly to yourself, you may want to say these words while looking at yourself in the mirror. Saying them to yourself as you go to sleep at night also has great power.
- I adore you
- I respect you
- I value you
- I cherish you
- I admire you
- I appreciate you
- I so appreciate ________ about you
- I appreciate your ___________
- I admire you because ________
- I think you are amazing because _____
- You’re so talented
- Great job, NAME
- You’ve improved so much
- You tried, that’s all that matters
- It’s ok that you _______
- You’re so courageous
- You’re so kind
- I’m so grateful for you
- I’m so grateful for your ____________
- You are so special because ________
- I believe in you
- I’m so proud of you
- I trust you
- You’re such a good parent / daughter / son / kid / friend / neighbor
- You’re such a great cook / artist / designer / craftsman / writer
- You’re extraordinary because ________
- You make the world better because _______
- You’re perfect just the way you are
- You don’t need to change
- You are completely accepted
- Take your time
- It’s ok to ask for help
- You don’t have to if you don’t want to
- You’re enough
- You’re more than enough
- You’re brilliant
- You’re so smart
- You’ve got an amazing heart
- You’ve got an amazing mind
- You did your best and that’s enough
- I forgive you
Self love words when you’re lonely
Sometimes one of the hardest times to express words of self love is when we’re feeling alone, when we wish we were with another. Yet, even though we want to hear the words from someone else, the very best thing we can do for ourselves is to offer ourselves expressions of connection and love. The more we can tend to and care for our own hearts when we’re alone, the more we can receive the loving words of affection from another later.
The truth is, if we want to have a strong and deep relationship with another, we must first have a strong and deep relationship with ourselves. Many people don’t want to hear that, and even think the thought to be ridiculous. Yet, here’s the problem. If we’re lonely and longing for love we may feel a hole within that wants to be filled with love. If we don’t fill that hole ourselves, we will go and try to find someone else to fill it. Yet when we do that, in our desperation to feel loved, we too often settle for much less than the true love we deserve.
Your heart and your happiness will be much better served by speaking these self love words that affirm your connection, care, and commitment to yourself.
- I’ve got you
- I’ve got your back
- I’m with you
- I’ll never leave you
- I see you
- I feel you
- I understand you
- I welcome your tears
- Tell me what you’re feeling
- You get to do anything you want right now.
- Let’s go snuggle
- You matter
Self love words for the body
Another way many struggle to love themselves is in loving their bodies. We have culturally been conditioned to judge every potential imperfection of our bodies. Yet our inability to love our physical form impacts self-esteem and health as well as physical and emotional intimacy. Both men’s and women’s body image issues can make self talk way too critical.
Alternatively, you can begin to change your relationship with your body by incorporating these self love words and phrases into your regular inner dialog with yourself.
- You are so beautiful
- You’re _______ is / are beautiful
- I love your curves
- I love your ______
- You are sexy
- You’re hot!
- You have a great _____
- You have sexy ____
- You’re so strong
- I like the way you feel
- You move so powerfully / gracefully
- You have wonderful ___________
- I so appreciate how you take care of and support me
- Thank you for being my body
Cool ways to send love to yourself
Now that you’ve learned a variety of ways to speak lovingly to yourself, let’s consider a few practical ways to put these self love words into action. The more you feel and even embody the love you offer to yourself, the more profoundly you will be changed by your practice.
In addition to changing the dialog you have with yourself, you’re invited to pair your words with active or tangible expressions of love.
- Leave love notes around the house for yourself
- Send yourself an adoring text
- Record a voice memo saying I love you and send it to yourself
- Put a sticky note that says something loving on your bathroom mirror, or computer, or both
- Post something you appreciate about you on your Facebook wall
- Pick a love song you like and sing it to yourself
- Write a love poem to you
- Pat yourself on the back and say something loving to yourself out loud
- Whisper self love words to yourself when you put your head on your pillow
- Frame a photo of you in a ‘love’ frame
Authentic self love takes time and commitment. Learning a self love vocabulary will support you immensely on that journey to knowing how to love yourself well. So while the suggested self love words above are powerful, let’s take a moment to outline the steps you can take to find your own personal words. Your genuinely inspired words, spoken lovingly to you, will have the greatest impact on your heart and your life.
To find your own personal expressions of love in any moment, you’ll want to first slow down and get present to your experience of yourself. Then from your presence, genuinely acknowledge something you appreciate, love, or admire about yourself in that moment. It could be something you’re doing that took courage or it could be an improvement you’ve made. You could appreciate yourself for learning something new or for simply being real, which is always a gift to you and others. No matter what, find the good in you and express it to yourself.
It takes courage and a commitment to love to say these kinds of self love words to yourself. Yet every one of these words and phrases offers a different possibility for embracing and loving you. Will you offer yourself the compassion, acceptance, and kindness your heart longs for? We can only hope.
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