Every. Single. Time. I say, as so many wise sages have said before me, “you can’t love another until you love yourself.” I hear the groans. It’s true. We don’t want to hear that. But our resistance to that very ancient truth is what keeps us separated from love. What keeps us longing for love and hoping that finally someone will accept us just as we are.
But they can’t. They can’t possibly accept you just as you are. Until you do. The truth is they probably do accept you as you are, but you can’t feel it. You can’t experience it because it doesn’t fit with the “reality” that you hold in your head. The fear “I’m not enough.” or “I’m too much.” or “I’m not worth it.” or “If they really knew me, they’d never stay.” Leave you wanting, wondering, more importantly distrusting, and unavailable.
This failure to embrace ourselves just as we are means that love - genuine romantic soulful love - can’t happen. But…
When it does. When you realize that your imperfections are your magic. When you know that not having it all together, is ok, truly ok. When your willingness to be seen in your beauty and your mess or with your incredible strength and your deep tenderness. This is when you finally create a space for partnership to blossom.
“The love within you determines the love between you.” ~Joanna Shakti
Embrace the courage it takes to explore the places you do love... and don’t love…
And know, you’re in beautiful company as you do...
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