Ecstatic Intimacy For Singles
The Path to Love
You think you're ready. You want to be ready. You want to find your soulmate. You're tired of lonely nights and weekends. You want to feel the intimate pleasures of body to body union.
And, you're single again. Maybe you're in the wash-rinse-repeat cycle of date, fall-in-love, disappointment, breakup, do it all again. Maybe you're one of the strong powerful women, like I was, who continuously lamented, "where are all the strong men who will actually meet me?" Or, maybe you're the man who feels like the nice guy who finishes last.
It doesn't matter which way relationship challenges show up for you, heartache and loneliness suck. I cried many a tear, blamed many men for being inadequate partners, and kept trying, and trying, and trying. And, it never seemed to work.
Until I realized, it was never them It was me. When I turned my attention inward to how I was showing up for, and in, love, that's when everything changed. That moment, is breathtakingly powerful. You finally bring soul love and then you get soul love in return. You're finally on the path of love.
This is my prayer for you...
Why am I Single? The 3 Biggest Reasons Singles are Still Single (or Single Again)
Here's a bit of reality, both single men and single women want to know how to attract and enjoy hot and happy, deep and soulful, love. The problem isn't so much the love but the relating that goes with it…
You were never taught how to attract and create a conscious relationship, an enlightened relationship, or a soulful relationship. That's why you've tried and seemingly failed. And why you're likely to settle.
Relating starts the minute you first read the profile, the moment you catch a glimpse of them across the room…
So what do you do when your values and visions conflict… on the first date (especially when the chemistry is running high)?
The success of any date, any relationship, depends wholly on how YOU are showing up and how YOU are relating to the other person, and yourself.
It's unfortunate, It's not until most have struggled or even failed… over and over again, that they get up the courage to look for the common denominator. Themselves.
The 3 Unrecognized Reasons Why Singles Stay Single.
1. You think you won't be lonely in a relationship.
You go through a lot of unnecessary heartbreak when you're not comfortable being lonely. When you seek love from a feeling of loneliness, not wanting to spend another Saturday night or Sunday morning alone, is where the settling begins. Tolerating things that aren't really ok with you and entertaining "good enough" for now. But it always breaks down in the end. And the loneliness remains. In or out of "the relationship."
2. You don't know what makes you magnetically attractive
YOU make you magnetically attractive. Two very particular parts of you. First, you're perfectly imperfect messy humanness makes you magnetically attractive. (Your pretending, proving and striving make you less attractive.) We fall in love with humanness not perfection. Second, the authentic alignment of the masculine and feminine within you ignites real chemistry. Marry the authentic real you with your authentic masculine or feminine expression and now you've got an attractive force that won't stop.
3. Your fears and doubts have the best of you
As you believe, so it is. Thoughts like "I'm not good enough, all the good ones are gone, love doesn't last, men just want sex, women are too _____ (fill in the blank), it won't happen for me, what if something is wrong with me" -- ensure you can't find true love. If you've made vows like "I'll never let that happen again…" you're nearly guaranteed to sabotage yourself… and you won't know why it's happening. And simply affirming what you want (positive statements) is not the answer it has been touted to be. Then you find yourself asking again, "Why am I still single?"
The Biggest Mistake Singles Make
Not working on relationships skills until you meet someone.
I hear this over and over again from single men and single women, "I'll take an intimacy retreat, I'll attend a relationship workshop when I meet my soulmate. We'll do it together and it will be awesome."
Wrong. It doesn't work that way
It's been proven over and over again, the reason you are not finding your soulmate, the reason the one you're into isn't into you, the reason you keep getting disappointed and breaking up, has nothing to do with the men or women you are dating.
It has everything to do with you. And, right now, this sits in your blindspot. You cannot see what's in the way of your soul mate relationship. If you could, you wouldn't be single right now.
This is not the time to wait until you find a partner to become a soul mate lover. Become a soul mate lover and then, and only then, you'll find Your One.
The Path to Love Experience
Are you open?
Is your heart really available for love? Most often we believe, "I'm completely over my past relationships. I totally believe love is possible. I'm not afraid. I'm loving, I don't judge anyone. I am absolutely showing up ready, open, and available." Then we are shocked to find out how not true that is.
Your Soul Mate Does Exist
Soulmates. Your soul mate is looking for you. You have a soul contract. You didn't miss out. You haven't wasted time. You had to go through what you went through so you could see your personal barriers to love - now it's time to take them down and open the door so true love can walk right in without effort.
We've been told to put others first; we've been told what a good man does or what a great woman doesn't do. It's really all a lie. The most important thing you can do is remove all the conditioning, the shoulds, the shouldn't's, the rules, the strategies, and figure out who you truly are and be THAT. Tall order, yes. Doable, absolutely.
What's your Sexual Essence?
Preparing for Love
Something deeper is at work. Truly if you are here on this page, your soul is calling in your soulmate. Your being is ready - maybe not ready for the relationship just yet, but more than ready to drop the blocks and façades.
I'll always tell you the tough truths so you can let go of what doesn't serve you and be the powerfully attractive person you really are. Because someone is waiting for you to open your heart. Waiting at this very moment.
Acknowledge the courage of being right here, right now.
His strength and his tenderness, his penetration and his embrace, his caresses and his lust, his power and his openness bring all passion, all sensation, all bliss, all ecstasy to life. I give myself in pleasure to him.
I know my wholeness, my fullness, my succulent beauty. I revel in it. I honor it. I nurture and embrace the radiance, beauty, love, sensuality and sexuality that shine through this body… surrendering it fully open. My radiance and light nourish him.
I see him. I honor him. I appreciate and care for him in all my loving expressions. I share the fullness of my being with him. Nothing is withheld… nothing. He knows my fullness.
Our bond grows deeper in soul, in Truth, in love... peeling away our own layers of untruth. My feminine draws up his masculine that deepens my feminine. His masculine stands erect guiding us through unknown ecstatic adventure. All love exists and ...