The Masculine Protects the Feminine
Take a breath… I know that title might trigger some reactions in both men and women alike. If you happen to be one of those people, consider giving the idea a chance. See how it might apply in your life… see where societal or life’s conditioning might have limited your perspective… and, I might not be saying what you think I’m saying.
I’m not saying that a woman needs a man. We (women) used to and, on many levels, we don’t any more. Yet I also know that we do need each other for our deepest fulfillment, love, and even for our deepest freedom.
Are you willing to need and be needed?
If you’ve read my newsletters, watched any of my videos, or been to an event with me you know that each of us, both genders, have masculine and feminine energy within us. In short, our masculine energy produces results, bringing forth qualities like focus, direction, presence, aggression, rigidity, and honor; while our feminine nature brings softness, creativity, coyness, openness, surrender, flexibility, flow, and beauty. We both have both energies within us and for most of us, we have one that predominates within us, one that feels most, true natural and authentic. (Hint: it’s not always the one that feels the most comfortable… our masks can feel so comfortable that we think they’re natural… and they are not real.)
Whether we’re aware or not, we all experience the interplay or the dance of the masculine and feminine within us individually as well as the interplay that happens between us, even in same sex relationships. This article was inspired by several distinct conversations about or experiences with the masculine stepping in to protect the feminine in the last month or so.
Are you willing to allow the feminine to be protected by the masculine?
I love it when masculine protection shows up in the form of a male body supporting or guiding this female body – whether that’s touching my arm as we walk up to a street with traffic, or holding the small of my back guiding me through a crowd, checking to see that I got home at night, or downright blocking me from an unsafe person or situation. This may sound needy or weak, yet with pre-dominant feminine energy, particularly in a female body, a genuine instinctive need for security exists. Seemingly needy or not, most feminine women find those experiences down right sexy. They energetically impact us. As we evolve, men and women alike can recognize that this security comes in many forms and, whether we are the one providing the security or we are the one desiring it, the first step in the journey is to accept the truth of this desire for security… for protection.
Having recognized this truth myself several years ago, I now gratefully receive the protection of masculine men, whether I know them personally or not. It’s wonderful and I’m grateful. Thank you men! I’m also very aware that it does not require a man’s presence. I’ve come to recognize and love the fact that I don’t need to wear my own masculine shield of protection in the world… I can open up my being to experience everyone and all of life and know that if my inner masculine is needed, he’ll be there in a heart beat! This has become so natural that recently it took me by surprise… I didn’t even realize it was happening until after the fact when I could reflect.
“If my inner masculine is needed, he’ll be there in a heart beat!”
I was in a conversation, a negotiation of sorts, and I wanted to remain open to all possibilities while, on some level, I actually felt like I was being attacked. The feminine in me wanted to stay open, connected, trusting, but another part of me said, “get out.” Well, as it’s my nature, I stayed as femininely open and flowing as I could and simultaneously an aggressive energy kept arising and getting stronger. Soon this person asked, “Why are you being so aggressive?” I didn’t have an answer in the moment, but afterwards reflecting, it became crystal clear that my own masculine had come to the rescue of my feminine who wasn’t heeding the warning signs. Thank you masculine!
Thank you men! Thank you masculine!
Women, if you have led with your masculine in the past, you might consider that it doesn’t have to be in front any more. Open your soft vulnerable beautiful heart and know that your masculine stands ready. It will come out, it will rescue you, if you need it.
Women… Live from you inner feminine. Trust your inner masculine.
(Men, wouldn’t it be great if women did this more often?)
Men, similarly, yet different for you… it is safe to open and reveal you tender sweet heart in ways you never thought possible because your masculine doesn’t leave you when you soften and open your heart. It’s there in the reserves… watching from the tower… and it will also be there in a flash, if you need it. Knowing that you don’t lose anything when you soften and share, maybe you, too, can relax and open wider.
Men… it’s not a demand.
Men, it’s not a demand. It’s not a demand to open. It’s not a demand to protect a woman. It’s an opportunity to dance in this co-created play of the masculine and feminine. You don’t have to do anything. We’ll be fine… masculine energy will appear where and when it needs to. It doesn’t have to be you.
The question is… do you want the privilege, honor and joy of getting to be, getting to offer the gift of the masculine? Does it excite you to think of being the hero?
Is your hero ready to come out?
Seriously though, if it’s not authentic for you men, don’t do it. We’ll feel it’s insincere and not genuine… And it won’t mean as much and we won’t trust it as much. It certainly won’t make us hot for you… (and your masculine energy does make a feminine woman hot for you!)
If it’s in you men, if that hero within you has been unseen and he’s ready for some action and wants some play time… the feminine needs you, wants you, and is driven wild by your presence.
The feminine is driven wild by your conscious masculine protection and presence!
*At Ecstatic Intimacy, an all-inclusive website for singles and couples, we welcome all sexual orientation(s), gender(s) and relationship expressions. In this article we utilize the pronouns he/she/him/her.