The Strong Man with the Sensitive Heart
The inspiration for today’s article arises from my favorite moment a past workshop. I almost always have favorite moments from events and this one definitely tops the stack.
During the sharing at the end of the section about attraction, a woman shared that although it was great to look at what truly attracted her to a man, she was sad because two of the characteristics she desired seemed to mutually exclusive. She is attracted to confident powerful men who take the lead… and she also desires a man with a sensitive heart. She continued, “…and that doesn’t seem possible.”
The question couldn’t have excited me more. You see I felt that way too at one time. I wanted that strong powerful man that could take charge, know where he was going, and could ravage me wildly. At the same time, I desired sensitivity, understanding, compassion and kindness in his heart… They felt like an impossible combination.
I can tell you they are not. I’ve met amazing men who both penetrate the world powerfully in their leadership and love deeply from their hearts.
Men this article isn’t just for women. I feel called to say, “Men, stick around and keep reading… I think these words can deeply impact and inspire both men and women.”
As I said earlier, strength, power and a sensitive heart can arrive in one package… specifically one with male anatomy. And, I’ll say they show up in the bodies and beings of men who’ve done their inner soul-searching… who’ve gone inside and found the truth of who they are. These are men who have discovered how to unite their heart and her sexuality.
These are men who own their masculinity. They own their aggression and their boldness. They stand in their honor. They stand rooted in their presence and simultaneously open their heart to feel the world around them. Even in the rooted focus, they’ve discovered the sensitive essential nature of their heart. They feel through and beyond their strength. His tenderness penetrates the world, including his woman, through his power. He can ravage fiercely and delicately hold a butterfly, or a crying woman.
All of this arises through his integrated wholeness as a man. A man who owns and lives thoroughly in his masculine can, without loss of potency, allow the soft tender feminine nature of his heart to move through and embrace the one he loves… the ones he loves… and even the world.
Yes women, you can have a confident, powerful man with a sensitive heart. AND, to attract and live side-by-side with this divine man, you too must find your wholeness, your integrated essence. Your inner masculine can no longer stand guard. As an integrated feminine woman, you rest in your open-heart. You surrender and flow with life. You call upon your inner masculine, when it’s truly needed, allowing it to flow through your feminine nature and not override it.
This is the deepest opportunity for both men and women… to embody… to live and rest in our authentic sexual nature whether it be masculine or feminine. It’s our opportunity to stop falsely hiding behind what has felt safe, appropriate, and comfortable and step into what is powerful, magnetic and deeply desirable.
I invite you to step into your authentic lover.
*At Ecstatic Intimacy, an all-inclusive website for singles and couples, we welcome all sexual orientation(s), gender(s) and relationship expressions. In this article we utilize the pronouns he/she/him/her.