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To Kiss or Not to Kiss: That is the Question

Have you ever wondered, “To kiss or not to kiss?” and how passionately to kiss?

We’re going to talk about three keys to kissing with confidence.

You cannot think your way through a kiss.

You have to be present and feel the energy to have it be good.  Here’s the deal…



1)  The masculine initiates the kiss

I’m not saying the man or woman initiates.  I’m talking about the energy of your sexual essences… and whoever has the predominant masculine sexual essence initiates.

That means that if you want to be kissed, which is the feminine expression of receiving, then don’t initiate, invite the kiss.

If you want to be kissed, then smile and stay present.

And seriously, don’t move away if you’re wanting that kiss.

You might even, in that smile, inhale and part your lips slightly.

And if you want to kiss, then be the one to move in for the kiss.


2) Pause and Be Present

As the masculine, as the initiator, to sense whether your potential kisser wants to be kissed you have to pause and be present.

Feel that energy between you; when it’s there, it will be almost magnetic.

You’ll know.  Watch her body language.

If she pauses before she gets in her car, or she pauses before going in the house, those are probably good signs.  Has she been lightly touching you?  Has she been laughing, smiling, and getting close to you? Those are all signs that she’s probably “in” to the kiss.

Feel and watch what’s really happening.

You’ll know.


3) Ladies, help him out.

Give him a sign (or three) that you’re interested.  And guys, as you’re moving in, move in slowly.

If she pulls away, then she’s not interested.

If she’s responding positively, then, as you’re moving in slowly, feel that tension.  The slowness, the pause, will build that tension… that magnetism…  and that’s always good.

Plus… and this is super important…  if you go too fast, you will miss that sign that the kiss isn’t welcome.

Feel, be present and let the energy of the kiss move you.  Then you will know the answer to that question, “To Kiss or Not to Kiss?”

If you’d like to know more about the dance of the masculine and feminine and what your sexual essence might be… then check out my Are you Masculine or Feminine Quiz here

In love, light and ecstasy,

Joanna Shakti

*At Ecstatic Intimacy, an all-inclusive website for singles and couples, we welcome all sexual orientation(s), gender(s) and relationship expressions. In this article we utilize the pronouns he/she/him/her.

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