Turn up Your Attraction Factor

Turn up Your Attraction Factor: How to Turn Heads with Confidence

Want to know how to create chemistry, attraction and passion?

Before I give you the 3 points, let me explain how this works. You have to understand the dynamics of masculine and feminine polarity.

Masculine and feminine are energies, they’re like magnets. When you bring the positive side and the negative side of a magnet together (the opposite sides), they come together and they stick. It actually takes a little force to pull them apart. But if you flip one of those magnets, so that the same sides are together… they will actually repel. Not only do they repel, but they repel fast. This happens in our dating and relating!


So, what is masculine and what is feminine?

  • Masculine energy is focused, directed, erect, penetrating, assertive, results-oriented.
  • Feminine energy is soft, flowing, creative, receptive, surrendered and expressive.

And these two energies are massively attracted to each other.

Here’s the biggest problem with masculine and feminine energy: Most of us have absolutely no idea how it works; and worse yet, when we think we know how it works, we often have it completely backwards.

In our culture, over the past 50-60 years, we’ve tried to neutralize these two energies. This leaves nice girls and nice guys, hanging out together with no spark. It means new-age, sensitive guys are meeting strong, independent women, and they’re hanging out in the friend or roommate zone.



So, now that you understand the problem, there are 3 things you have to understand to ignite that spark of attraction:

First, you want to know what your sexual essence is: Is it masculine, feminine, or neutral? (Here’s the thing about neutral: there are actually very few people who have a neutral sexual essence.)  I share a quiz in my video “Opposites Attract” that will help you identify your sexual essence. Even if you think you know what your sexual essence is, I really invite you to take that quiz… because I can’t tell you how many men and women are shocked by what they discovered!

Second, once you know your sexual essence, you have to live it.

For the masculine, that means: direct, decisive, assertive, erect
For the feminine, that means: soft, flowing, radiant, receptive, and even a little bit wild

Third, and most importantly, you need to let go of all the unsupportive, limiting beliefs that stop you from being you. Guys, you might have just said “I’m a good guy! I’m not going to be disrespectful or assertive. I’m not going to be one of those jerk men.”

Women, you might be thinking, “I’m not going to be a passive doormat. No one is going to think I’m weak!”


The feminine is not weak. The masculine is not a jerk.

It’s these limiting beliefs that keep zapping your sexual chemistry and putting you in the friend zone. It’s all connected to your sexual essence.


United, the masculine and feminine have hot kisses, conversation and lovemaking!

If you’d like more insights into the masculine and feminine dynamics… and how to ignite the sparks of connection and chemistry in dating and relating then… 


Men… I have Gifts for you HERE


Women… I have Gifts for you HERE


In love, light and ecstasy,

Joanna Shakti

*At Ecstatic Intimacy, an all-inclusive website for singles and couples, we welcome all sexual orientation(s), gender(s) and relationship expressions. In this article we utilize the pronouns he/she/him/her.

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