Manifest your Soulmate

Want vs. Desire – Manifest Your Soulmate

Do you want to know the secret to manifesting your desires, to manifesting your ideal relationship with your soulmate?

Let’s explore 3 Critical Success Factors for anyone – man, woman, single or partnered – who wants to manifest your soulmate enjoy a soulmate soul-love relationship.


1) Clear out the Blocks

If you’re like so many of the single men and women I work with, you’ve just ended a relationship and you want to get right back out there and find the right one. Or, the pain of the last breakup has finally eased off and you’re ready to try again.

That’s where the biggest mistake comes in.  You think manifesting your soulmate is a “finding” problem.  You imagine the problem is out there because all the good ones are gone, or the stars just haven’t aligned yet, or you think you have to keep working at it and if you just keep trying it will finally happen.  Not finding your soulmate is actually a mindset problem.    

You see, your previous relationships left you hurting in some way, and our human minds don’t like for us to hurt.  As a matter of fact, our mind will do anything it can to protect us from experiencing pain or hurt, including unconscious self-sabotage to ensure we DON’T manifest our soulmate. 

So what do you do about it?  In it’s simplest form, you need to do a Conscious Endings Ritual with your last partner and any of your past partners where even the slightest bit of hurt, anger, resentment, even numbness, or anything of the sort still exists in your consciousness or body.  I guide people in my Soul Love Programs Series programs on how to do this uniquely for each situation in their lives and here are the keys…

The great part is you don’t need your past lovers or partners to participate!  You can do this completely on your own.

First, you need to let go of any stored feelings and emotions you might be carrying with you.  These will block your manifesting energy.

Second, you have to COMPLETELY forgive your Ex for anything they might have done, or not done, that contributed to your hurt feelings.

Third, you have to completely forgive YOU for any way that you contributed to the past relationship pains.  (And, I guarantee you, no matter what they did, you had a part in the challenges.)

Fourth, you need to integrate into you the lessons and blessings you got from that relationship, no matter how painful it might have been.

Last but not least, send your part partner blessings on his or her journey.



2) You Need a Clear Soul Love Vision 

You can’t successfully manifest your soulmate, if you don’t know very clearly what you want to experience with your soulmate.   

Notice that I didn’t say make a list of all the qualities you want your soulmate to have.  A list of qualities will not create the magnetic energy you need to actually call in your soulmate.  The Law of Attraction, as you’ll see in point 3, is all about energy and emotion.  A list of qualities is really just data. It won’t help you.

So, you want to create your Soul Love Relationship Vision where you describe all of the experiences you want to share with your soulmate and how they make you feel.   You want to write down all the emotions you will feel in your body when the two of you share these experiences together.  When you focus on the experiences and the associated emotions, now you’ve got some manifesting power to call in your soulmate!  Check out this vision for an example: She Races for the Door – A Vision.  (And, yes, men, this is written from a woman’s perspective and you can do this too!  The feelings that you express in your vision will just look different.)


3) Express Your Desire

If you want to manifest your soulmate, or any desire for that matter, you have to understand the difference between a want and a desire! 

Simply put, “want” repels while desire attracts.

Let me show you what I mean…


Here’s what “want” from a woman can sound like when she wants to find her soulmate…

Seriously, this is what you might hear her say on one of her challenging days…


“I so want a man in my life. I want to wake up with somebody next to me. I want to feel kisses, I want to be held, I want to be spooned. When is there ever going to be a man in my life?”


Just reading that, can you feel it’s energy?

Here’s what desire from a woman can look like when she desires her soulmate…

While she’s fully feeling the pleasure of the experience in her body, she might say…


“It feels so good to wake up with a man next to me and feel his breath on my neck…  feel his kisses running down my shoulder…  and know that I am so loved.  Mmmmmm… That feels so good.”


That’s desire, that’s feeling it.

The first one, the want example, was all about lack, and emptiness, and missing-ness.

Unfortunately (or fortunately), you get more of what you put out, so if you’re expressing that want…and putting all of the “lack” energy into the universe, that’s exactly what you’re going to get more of… Specifically, you’ll get more want and lack. 

You’re not going to get the man or a woman you’re looking for!

However, if you embody and you feel what it is you desire, it’s has to come to you.

So, let go of those wants, give up complaining.


Own your desire and feel it every day.

Take these 3 steps to Manifesting Your Soulmate and watch how fast love shows up! You might even prepare yourself by exploring what happens when you meet your soulmate.

If you’d like more insights into the masculine and feminine dynamics…


Men… I have Gifts for you HERE

Women… I have Gifts for you HERE


In love, light and ecstasy,

Joanna Shakti

*At Ecstatic Intimacy, an all-inclusive website for singles and couples, we welcome all sexual orientation(s), gender(s) and relationship expressions. In this article we utilize the pronouns he/she/him/her.

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