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Want vs. Desire

Today’s article comes directly from an exercise the men and women in the 90-Day Breakthrough programs are doing this week in their workbook… and it’s the topic of November’s Ignite Night so it I thought I’d share the exercise with you too…


Want limits us while desire expands us.  When we focus on what we want, energetically we put our attention on what’s missing in our life.  And, according to the universal laws of attraction, our want brings us more of what we don’t want… more of what we lack.

When we focus on our desire we have to actually feel what is it we desire in order to describe it to ourselves or anyone else.  Again, following the laws of attraction, the very action of feeling the desire brings the object of that desire closer to us… and eventually into reality.

Here’s an example…

WANT:  I’m tired of going to sleep alone.  I’m tired of not having sex.  I want a woman in my life!  (Imagine saying this or hearing it in your head with the disappointment of not having the woman in your bed.)

DESIRE: “Oh it would feel so good to fall asleep with a woman in my arms, feeling the softness of her skin against me, and the curve of her hip under my arm… having just made incredibly passionate hot love.  (Imagine saying this with all the feeling of actually having had the experience.)  It typically feels feel, rich and satisfying to feel the desire (while the want leaves you feeling empty).  The desire usually brings a smile to your face and it might even turn you on.

Transform your Wants (that you’ll never get) into Desires…  so they turn into reality!

Write down 3 wants… Now, transform the words of your want into the words of your desire… Remember to use words that bring the experience and the feeling alive in you.   Cross out the old want.  Be done with the lack!  FEEEEEEEL your desire… you men you too.

If you want to speed up the manifesting process, feel those desires FULLY at least once a day!

Here’s to having your desire!!

In love, light and ecstasy,

Joanna Shakti

*At Ecstatic Intimacy, an all-inclusive website for singles and couples, we welcome all sexual orientation(s), gender(s) and relationship expressions. In this article we utilize the pronouns he/she/him/her.

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  1. Jim V on December 20, 2023 at 11:35 pm

    Thank you Joanna for that simple, profound re-mind-er. Once a day – good idea; good way to re-mind myself. PS – did you make that great winter photo with the ice crystals? Fantastic. I think you would love the art of Andy Goldsworthy.

  2. Bucky on December 21, 2023 at 6:19 pm

    I can feel the difference in my body of want from desire. It’s so much easier for me to think and say a want. It has the energetic clink of metal. There is a beginning and an ending to it. It’s about what I’m missing. Where desire is expansive. Its not as easy to create energetically. Desire asks that I feel the energy of expansion, of a request. I love how it feels! The process adds an energetic richness to my being. And the details are fun to write!!
    Thank you for your straight forward words of the difference between the two.

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