Weekend Practice : Pursuit
Singles and couples… this practice is for both of you!
And, before we can talk about how to play the pursuit game, you have to know what turns you on. You have to know what you desire.
So I have a couple questions for you to ask yourself so you know what you really desire. Oh Wait… before I ask, I have to start with some conditions so you can get beyond your mind… and maybe your fears… to actually hear the truest answer for you. Here goes….
If everything were completely safe… you could have anything you want… you felt confident and in your natural power… if no one judged you…
Would you prefer to ask out or be asked out?
Would you prefer to be called or do the calling?
If the other person is actively pursuing you, is it a bit of a turn off?
If you prefer to ask out and do the calling… and being actively pursued turns you off (even a bit)… You likely desire a feminine partner... and your role in the “Pursuit” game is Pursuer…
If you prefer to be asked out, to be called, and to be pursued… your deepest desires are likely for a powerful strong man. That means your role in the “Pursuit” game is Pursued!
Women… if your heart’s deepest desire is to be swept off your feet by a strong powerful man… you can NOT pursue him. You can’t call him. You can’t ask him out. If you do, you give men the message that your heart’s desire isn’t important… and if you take the lead, you’ll never get what you truly long for. You can smile, flirt, chat, even momentarily run your hand across his leg… but wait for him to pursue you.
Men… if you desire a beautiful vibrant playful sensual woman… you MUST ask her out. You must make the majority of the calls… You have to summon up your inner mojo, take the risk, and call her! That’s powerful.
Couples…even if you’ve been together 20 years… if you want great times in the bedroom AND happiness… you still have to take your perspective roles in the Pursuit game. If you reverse roles, you’ll likely find yourselves both less than happy.
We’re touching on the critical keys of chemistry and lasting attraction here… And, they’re confusing as heck! Hasn’t every one been telling women to go for it… take the lead… ask him out. Times are changing again… If you’re struggling to attract the ‘one’… if there’s less sizzle with the one you have… then please come play with me…
In love, light and ecstasy,
*At Ecstatic Intimacy, an all-inclusive website for singles and couples, we welcome all sexual orientation(s), gender(s) and relationship expressions. In this article we utilize the pronouns he/she/him/her.