When the Feminine Shines
Many of you have heard me say this before and it’s always good to have a reminder. I needed lots of reminders! Honestly, it took me years to embrace the full truth of this. All of us – male and female alike – have masculine and feminine energy within us. Regardless of our gender, every one of us embodies some percentage of the full spectrum of masculine energy and some percentage of the full spectrum of feminine energy. The expression of masculine energy, in its simplest form, tends to show up as presence, while feminine energy tends to show up as light. We’ll explore the gift and the power of masculine presence next week and today let’s explore this aspect of shining the feminine light. Men, please keep reading as you’ll learn much about the women in your life.
This feminine light or radiance has many characteristics and the one that stands out most is its magnetic quality. We’ve all see that woman walk across the room and she captivates us… not necessarily because she’s especially beautiful or well-dressed, but because there’s “just something” about her that captures the eye, magnetizes you to her. It’s as if there is a light in her, shining around her. If you look directly at her, you can’t actually see a physical light, yet there seems to be a essence or a glow surrounding her being. (This light can show up in men too, it’s just more common in women because they typically have more immediate access to their feminine nature.)
Men, when a woman shows up full of joy, full of radiance, full of happiness… do you notice it fueling you? Women, whether we realize it or not, our feminine energy fuels men and it inspires action.
When men are fueled by the feminine, the masculine in them will be drawn to cherish us, care for us, and provide for us. It’s one of the ways we complement each other naturally…
Women, your radiance fuels men and inspires their generosity which in turn inspires your radiance.
Why didn’t anyone teach us this?!
Consider, women, when you’re shining, happy, and full… doesn’t it affect the quality of your relationships in all areas of life, whether we’re in a business situation or being a mother, a friend, or a lover? The real question for each of us as women is…
What allows you to bring your female spark and light to life?
The unfortunate truth is… it doesn’t just show up. First, we have to be present and honor ourselves. We have to give ourselves the gift of self-care. It’s essential. When we’re taking care of ourselves, the light automatically turns on. We become magnetically attractive not just to our lovers, but to our friends, our business prospects, clients, investors, and partners.
Here are some things that can help your light shine and shine brighter. (Men, you can help the women in your lives with these things. Women, you can just jump in and give them a try!) First, get enough rest. I know that might seem impossible, given the busy schedules so many of us have and yet, there is nothing more impactful to bringing out our feminine shine and power. Just notice, how easy is it for us to snap and be less than nice when we are exhausted? I’m at my worst when I’m really tired. How about you?
Another way we bring out our light is to create an inviting energy in our presence. Ask yourself or notice, are you pushing forward, almost forcing things to happen or are you opening and creating an invitation for results? The invitation is an expression of receptivity, another key ingredient in the female spark.
Are you a good receiver? Is it time to practice?
So women, I invite you to consider what brings out your spark, what makes your light shine? Is it when you do a certain activity? Dress or do your hair in a way you love? Is it when you’re deeply rested? Is it when you get to the gym or when you meditate? Is it when take a walk in nature or sit by a cozy fire? Is it when you are feeling confident? Here’s another hint women: slow down. As strange as it might seem, this is key to your glow
Women, it’s time for us to shine even brighter. Men, you can begin helping us shine by supporting us to rest, eat well, and do the activities we love.
Let’s all make the world glow with the Feminine Shine this week!
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