Where Do Women Like to be Kissed: The Untold Secrets

Asking “Where do women like to be kissed?” and truly considering the variety of answers will bring you and your partner much joy and pleasure. Quality kisses contribute directly to the affectionate experiences a woman needs to fully open to both her romantic love and her sexual passion. Mastering the art of kissing a woman will serve you well.

Of course, you want to remember that every woman differs in her pleasures and desires. Bearing that in mind, when we ask women this question, we hear some very common responses. First and foremost, the vast majority of women admire a great kisser. 

An exquisite kiss has the ability to render her breathless, melting her in your arms. Yet, you’ll soon see that many masculine partners all too often make a significant incorrect assumption, and hence a great mistake, in the presence of her surrendered openness. Even the most exquisite kiss can then backfire. 

Let’s explore the answer to the question “where do women like to be kissed” and answer it in two very specific ways. First we’ll identify where women want to be kissed on their bodies and then we’ll look at the physical places and spaces where they want to be kissed. Finally, we’ll finish with a few of the immediate ways your kissing can melt her and a few mistakes you definitely want to avoid.

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Where do women like to be kissed – the body 

Of course, a woman’s lips offer the first pathway to loving and kissing her well. And, just as a woman wants to be touched sexually in more places than her breasts and her sexual center, she too likes to be kissed over much of her body. 

As you discover the answers to the question where do women like to be kissed, you want to “know” in the deepest realms of your being that women want to be seen, experienced, loved, kissed, and made love to as a whole being – including the whole of her body and the whole of her being. She wants to be loved as a being, not a body. So, no matter where you are kissing her, aim to kiss her soul not her body. 

As we explore where on the body women want to be kissed, we’ll break this down into three categories of kissing – early kisses and simply making out (not a direct sexual interaction), playful fun kisses, and kissing during sexual loving. 

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First kisses, flirting, and making out…

1. The lips of course. Know that you can kiss different parts of her lips to add variety, intrigue, and spice. You can kiss the upper lip and lower lip separately. You can kiss the inner lip as well as the outer lip. You can kiss the right side and the left side of the lips distinctly. You’ll likely get different responses as you kiss these unique parts of her lips. 
2. Neck. Initially this will often be up and down the sides of the neck. Then as your intimacy deepens and the times and places of your kisses expand, you’ll also definitely want to kiss the back of her neck.
3. Ears and earlobes. Some women like this more than others, but done well it can be quite arousing. Be sure to include in front and behind her ears. 
4. Cheeks. As you find your way to her neck and ears
5. Back of hand. This old act of chivalry can still be exciting. 
6. Fingertips. Kissing her fingertips slowly while looking into her eyes can be quite sensuous. 
7. Eyelids. This can be a very vulnerable kiss, so go slowly and make sure your presence is strong. 
8. Ridge of shoulder. Again, as you get to know each other more intimately, and depending on what she’s wearing, kissing along the ridge of her shoulder can be exhilarating. 

Playful kisses

It’s always good for romantic partners and anyone dating to bring play into their connection. Here are a few playful ways to kiss each other. 

• Tip of nose. This can be lips to nose or nose to nose. 
• Eyelashes (Eyelash kissing is often called a Butterfly Kiss) 
• Air or breath kiss. This kiss where the lips don’t actually touch can be a playful teasing kiss that can ignite attraction and anticipation. 

Sexual loving kisses 

We’ll mention this again later and for a woman to remain interested in kissing and evening making out, not every kissing session should lead to sex or be an attempt to entice sex. In fact, you’ll want to make sure some of your kissing is just that – kissing and nothing more. Even after you’ve been married for years, letting kissing stand as its own pleasure will serve your hearts and bodies well. This builds and amplifies sexual tension and attraction for later. If every kiss, or even most kisses, become an attempt to move toward sex, you’ll likely enjoy a lot fewer kisses and a lot less sex. 

At the times when you do find yourself together in sexual loving, you’ll find many women enjoy having these parts of their bodies kissed.

Many women like to be kissed…

1. Along her inner thighs 
2. Behind her knees
3. In the small of her back
4. Along her spine
5. On her belly 
6. Up and down her sides
7. On her nipples (distinctly from the rest of her breasts)
8. Along the labia 
9. On her clitoris
10. On the tips and tops of her toes 

Do remember that a woman’s body image and comfort level with her body will impact how open she is to being kissed in these various locations. You’ll also want to know that many women love to be kissed everywhere, if it’s done well, with presence. But don’t let the idea of everywhere make you think you don’t need to be conscious and intentional. Letting your lips wander across the curves and beauty of her body is wonderful, just be sure to linger in all the right places. 

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Where to women like to be kissed – the places

Where do women like to be kissed in the world? Where do they not? Similar to where women like to be kissed on their bodies, they like to be kissed in many different physical locations. If a woman has developed a comfort level with public displays of affection and you keep it consciously respectable for those in the environment, most women love to be kissed anywhere they find themselves out and about with you. Then again, don’t just wait until you’re in public. Kiss her frequently around the house too. Kiss her simply because you love her and you know it puts a smile on her face and even a skip in her heart. Don’t kiss her simply because you want to get her in bed.

Public places a women likes to be kissed

• The grocery store, the mall, even Home Depot. 
• Restaurants
• Parking lots – getting in and out of the car or simply walking to the car
• On the sidewalk – if you find an entry nook where you won’t block anyone, a spontaneous kiss against a wall outside can be quite exquisite. 
• Under the stars
• At sunset
• Any place romantic
• Anytime you’re sightseeing or on vacation
• Hiking
• Places of beauty
• Stop lights

Kissing her in public often touches into the feminine desire to be deeply held; in some cases this even creates the feeling of being claimed by her masculine partner, which many women find arousing. Displaying your affection in the presence of others can say “I love you,” or if you’re dating “I like you a lot” in powerful ways. 

Places to kiss her at home

• In the kitchen while cooking or cleaning up – These create perfect times to offer sweet sexy kisses on the back of the neck. 
• On the sofa during commercials
• In the yard
• By the bathroom sink
• In the shower
• In the garage or even the basement. Remember to take breaks from tasks for some kissing fun. 
• In the hallway – another perfect time for an against the wall kiss. 
• At the dinner table – yes, it’s ok to let kids see you enjoying a moment of love. 

Whether at home or in public, surprise her with unexpected kisses. Be spontaneous. At our recent Conscious Sexuality Retreat one of the things we heard consistently from the feminine beings was their appreciation of spontaneity and variety when it came to romance and sexuality. 

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How to melt her with your lips

Feminine beings, whether they consciously realize it or not, are all about sensuality and energy. Your ability to make them feel matters as much, if not more, than knowing the answer to where do women like to be kissed. The experience and feelings that kissing brings truly matters much more than any skill. When the feminine feels more she builds anticipation and desire – as long as you’re moving slowly enough to allow it to rise in her. Be sensual and consider exploring advanced kissing techniques.

Finally, be sure to avoid these common kissing mistakes.

1. Don’t make kissing a part of the “formula” for sex. If a woman knows a good kiss means you want sex, she’ll eventually stop wanting to kiss you. (Yes, we’ve said this before here. Yet this turn off happens so often it’s worth mentioning multiple times.)
2. Don’t penetrate with your tongue too soon. Warm her up first. It’s foreplay for the lips. 
3. When kissing during your sexual play, remember to kiss much of the rest of her body before kissing her breasts or sexual center. 
4. Don’t move too quickly. Slow movement tends to increase sensation and pleasure while fast movement tends to numb out sensation.
5. Don’t forget about kissing. Keep kissing and making out a regular part of your connecting, no matter how many years or decades you’ve been together. 

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Kissing holds incredible power and possibility in our intimate romantic unions. Remember that when you put your attention on sentiment, presence, timing, and consistency, your kissing – and your whole relationship – just may find an indescribable magical quality. In a long term relationships, or even in dating, you have plenty of time for all aspects of love and physical passion. Take your time. Kissing contributes to the long game and short game, so to speak. Stay in the present. What happens later, especially when you understand the difference between making love and having sex, can blow both your minds and render you each breathless… if you allow yourself the time and space to master the artistry of kissing in the now.  

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